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Old 09-17-2021, 07:22 PM
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Face it, if both parties in a marriage were reasonable then you probably wouldn't be here.

My ex is trying to prevent my children from taking their toys with them between homes.
When toys go over there they don't come back.
When school lunch containers go over there they disappear.
My kids constantly come back with odd socks.

This is getting expensive.

Tips?
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Old 09-17-2021, 07:29 PM
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Dont let them take their toys back and buy cheap lunch boxes.

There are no good ideas as they are bound to fail.
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Old 09-17-2021, 08:17 PM
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Welcome to my world!

I bought 3 umbrellas last year, as ex hoards them. 2 separate raincoats. Mitts. You name it. The clothes is getting ridiculous. I buy lots of nice clothes for the kids at start of school year. I’m pretty sure my ex buys zero. I send kids to school in nice clothes, she picks them up, and then returns them to school on my day in clothes far too small that should’ve been donated. If I were to email/text asking the return of the clothes, she would call me petty/high conflict. I see her games, and don’t know what to do.

I don’t want to play games. But I am also aware she is purposely trying to poke at my wallet to affect my disposal income; as well to try to get me to bite.
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Old 09-17-2021, 09:33 PM
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Cleanslate, you might want to try disposable zip lock baggies instead of Tupperware and plastic shopping bags instead of lunch containers on days she picks up. Don’t send toys over.
You can also purchase some cheap, clean, used clothes from a thrift store and send them dressed in those clothes on the days your ex picks them up. Save the new clothes for days she does not see them.
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Old 09-17-2021, 09:33 PM
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If only there was some way to track these things.
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Old 09-18-2021, 08:15 AM
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If only there was some way to track these things.
This type of petty behaviour never sees the light of day in court. All it does is re-affirm your thoughts about your ex and shows their true colours/how low they can stoop.
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Old 09-18-2021, 12:41 PM
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Lovingdad, you hit the nail on the head!
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Old 09-18-2021, 05:08 PM
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Sorry you are dealing with that. Use ziplock bags instead of containers maybe?

We had the opposite situation, when kids would come to our house, ex would send them with a garbage bag of toys from her house. (We have toys here) When Dad had to return the kids to School Monday Morning (Different city) He returned the garbage bag of toys with them to School. Mom was Not happy (Her attempt at making him do 2 drop offs to School and her house failed lol--She desperately wanted to see him.) She quickly stopped sending the Garbage Bags of toys!
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Sorry you are dealing with that. Use ziplock bags instead of containers maybe?

We had the opposite situation, when kids would come to our house, ex would send them with a garbage bag of toys from her house. (We have toys here) When Dad had to return the kids to School Monday Morning (Different city) He returned the garbage bag of toys with them to School. Mom was Not happy (Her attempt at making him do 2 drop offs to School and her house failed lol--She desperately wanted to see him.) She quickly stopped sending the Garbage Bags of toys!
In addition to what you have observed the other thing the other parent could be doing is trying to send tokens (memories) of them (the non-residential parent) while at the other parent's house. Anxious parents "worry" that the children, while with the other parent, will forget them.
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