Mom of S5 has recently married someone who lives and works in the US, at least for the time being. He seems to be spending every weekend up here in Canada at her home.
First of all, if he's good to her and S5, I'm super happy for them so don't get all twisted thinking that them getting married is upsetting me cuz it's not.
I need to know how this potentially affects our reaching a new parenting agreement, negotiations are underway, and currently not going very well with her balking every step of the way, especially regarding me having more parenting time with S5.
At her request, we are getting ready to go to mediation in the new year. My main concern is how the changes in her life are affecting S5 and his future in my life.
For instance, Mom has been on OW since child's birth and now she's married a non-Canadian, who doesn't reside here, does that mean she is no longer eligible for her income from OW and also the medical and dental benefits provided?
I have a good benefit plan at work and would gladly put him on my plan if he is no longer eligible with OW (would also do it in a heartbeat if there were medical/dental treatment that isn't covered by OW) but there has been no request ever for me to do this.
Also, if mediation breaks down and we have to back to court, will she be still able to have a lawyer paid for through Legal Aid or does his income come into play when determining eligibility?
We spent over 2 years in family court trying to get custody and parenting time settled the first time with her on Legal Aid's dime and me the self-repped Applicant. I'm certainly not looking forward to going that route again.
I've been told that the new husband is currently looking for work up here but from my understanding even though they married she would be ineligible to sponsor him to come to Canada because of having been on OW and no employment EVER that I know of.
It's all very strange a lot of what I'm being told by my son's mom just doesn't make a lot of sense.
Constructive info or advice on how this affects things moving forward would be appreciated.
YD23
First of all, if he's good to her and S5, I'm super happy for them so don't get all twisted thinking that them getting married is upsetting me cuz it's not.
I need to know how this potentially affects our reaching a new parenting agreement, negotiations are underway, and currently not going very well with her balking every step of the way, especially regarding me having more parenting time with S5.
At her request, we are getting ready to go to mediation in the new year. My main concern is how the changes in her life are affecting S5 and his future in my life.
For instance, Mom has been on OW since child's birth and now she's married a non-Canadian, who doesn't reside here, does that mean she is no longer eligible for her income from OW and also the medical and dental benefits provided?
I have a good benefit plan at work and would gladly put him on my plan if he is no longer eligible with OW (would also do it in a heartbeat if there were medical/dental treatment that isn't covered by OW) but there has been no request ever for me to do this.
Also, if mediation breaks down and we have to back to court, will she be still able to have a lawyer paid for through Legal Aid or does his income come into play when determining eligibility?
We spent over 2 years in family court trying to get custody and parenting time settled the first time with her on Legal Aid's dime and me the self-repped Applicant. I'm certainly not looking forward to going that route again.
I've been told that the new husband is currently looking for work up here but from my understanding even though they married she would be ineligible to sponsor him to come to Canada because of having been on OW and no employment EVER that I know of.
It's all very strange a lot of what I'm being told by my son's mom just doesn't make a lot of sense.
Constructive info or advice on how this affects things moving forward would be appreciated.
YD23
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