Had a pretty interesting conversation tonight. It all started out with her telling me I didn't care about our house. I told her that was not true I did care about it. Basically this whole time I have told her she could buy me out of the house. However her pension is worth 3 times mine and she had a fair amount of school debt when we got married. I had no debt and a car. So needless to say with the pension my assets and her debt before marriage she has done significantly better in terms of the NFP. She qualified to refinance the mortgage but had to pay off all our debt. which would not have left her with enough to buy me out. But if she chose to transfer half her pension it would have been close enough. Anyway back to the conversation tonight. She basically said... "this is why i'm going to court, do you actually think a judge is going to kick me out of my house" I said "I didn't know we are going to court, did you file the paperwork???" she replied "no I'm not doing anything we can live like this for years I don't care". By this time I had had enough and walked away. She still knows how to pull me into these meaningless conversations.
It does not look like I posted what my original offer was.
I offered 50/50 shares custody (2-2-3) M-T/W-T/ alternating F-S-S.
I offered full table offset child support.
Section 7 expenses at 62% / 38%
I told her she could buy me out of the house.
Shared alternating holidays
I asked her to waive spousal support. (she has 2 college diplomas) a great full-time job with a fantastic pension. After child support calculations take home income would have been split 46.5% / 53.5% a difference of something like $400.00 / month.
she said no to all items.
Offset was not acceptable she wanted "contino" analysis done.
She wanted "Max" spousal. Min was $0 mid was $72 max was $540
She feels it's to disruptive to the children to be moved around so much. So I said we could do 1 week / 1 week. That was not good because it was too long without seeing them. So she wants sole custody with "generous" access.
And to top it all off she finishes the conversation with the following
"Why don't you be a man accept your responsibility and walk away for your children's sake" Accept my responsibility and walk away... that makes lots of sense.
This is what I'm dealing with.
Sorry I guess I'm a little excited...trying to be rational with an irrational person just does not work...I should know this but yet I keep trying to be reasonable. (slaps own wrist).
I also got an email from my lawyer today. He said I should not be recording conversations between the two of us and he said it would probably not be able to be used in court. He said judges in family court look down on this kind of behaviour.
I replied stating that I was told that Ontario had single party notification, and I was not using it for court but for my own protection against more false allegations.
I did not receive a reply. So I'm not sure what to do about this.
It does not look like I posted what my original offer was.
I offered 50/50 shares custody (2-2-3) M-T/W-T/ alternating F-S-S.
I offered full table offset child support.
Section 7 expenses at 62% / 38%
I told her she could buy me out of the house.
Shared alternating holidays
I asked her to waive spousal support. (she has 2 college diplomas) a great full-time job with a fantastic pension. After child support calculations take home income would have been split 46.5% / 53.5% a difference of something like $400.00 / month.
she said no to all items.
Offset was not acceptable she wanted "contino" analysis done.
She wanted "Max" spousal. Min was $0 mid was $72 max was $540
She feels it's to disruptive to the children to be moved around so much. So I said we could do 1 week / 1 week. That was not good because it was too long without seeing them. So she wants sole custody with "generous" access.
And to top it all off she finishes the conversation with the following
"Why don't you be a man accept your responsibility and walk away for your children's sake" Accept my responsibility and walk away... that makes lots of sense.
This is what I'm dealing with.
Sorry I guess I'm a little excited...trying to be rational with an irrational person just does not work...I should know this but yet I keep trying to be reasonable. (slaps own wrist).
I also got an email from my lawyer today. He said I should not be recording conversations between the two of us and he said it would probably not be able to be used in court. He said judges in family court look down on this kind of behaviour.
I replied stating that I was told that Ontario had single party notification, and I was not using it for court but for my own protection against more false allegations.
I did not receive a reply. So I'm not sure what to do about this.
Comment