I realize this is a generalization, but why is it that men can bounce into the arms of another women so quickly after a break up?
We had been together for 9 years and have a 2 year old daughter. We went through a lot of stuff together (raising teenagers - my stepkids -together, going through IVF to have our daughter and lots of other things). We had a really amazing relationship and connection. For 7 years anyway and then having our daughter changed things, as having little kids does to your link to your partner. 5 months ago he told me he wasn't happy. After a really rocky few months and counseling, he decided to leave for a few reasons. 1. he wasn''t in love with me anymore and 2. he felt that he needed to "find himself" and figure out who he is as a man.
Anyway, he moved out 2 months ago and swore that he needed to grow outside of any relationship. I just found out that he has gone out for 2 coffee dates with another woman. It makes it worse that he asked her.
I just find it unbelievable. I am so not there and I can't fathom that he is jumping back into dating so quickly. I realize that he was disengaging before even letting me know last year so he is way ahead of the process than me. But still! It makes me feel like everything he said to me was BS and that he never valued the relationship we had.
Why is it that so many men just can't be alone? Sorry for the long winded post. I hadn't intended to go on so long.
We had been together for 9 years and have a 2 year old daughter. We went through a lot of stuff together (raising teenagers - my stepkids -together, going through IVF to have our daughter and lots of other things). We had a really amazing relationship and connection. For 7 years anyway and then having our daughter changed things, as having little kids does to your link to your partner. 5 months ago he told me he wasn't happy. After a really rocky few months and counseling, he decided to leave for a few reasons. 1. he wasn''t in love with me anymore and 2. he felt that he needed to "find himself" and figure out who he is as a man.
Anyway, he moved out 2 months ago and swore that he needed to grow outside of any relationship. I just found out that he has gone out for 2 coffee dates with another woman. It makes it worse that he asked her.
I just find it unbelievable. I am so not there and I can't fathom that he is jumping back into dating so quickly. I realize that he was disengaging before even letting me know last year so he is way ahead of the process than me. But still! It makes me feel like everything he said to me was BS and that he never valued the relationship we had.
Why is it that so many men just can't be alone? Sorry for the long winded post. I hadn't intended to go on so long.
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