Hi all,
The never ending quest to put in place a new "amended" separation agreement is still ongoing. Looks like settlement might be near but I just got sidelined with a demand from the ex today that he's never previously brought up. Says this MUST be in writing for him or it's a deal breaker basically (although I've called his bluff several times before and been right). I am curious to know people's thoughts on this or if anyone has a similar clause in their agreement.
He is demanding that there be a clause in the agreement that states if and when he should remarry, he is entitled to a week of time with the kids at his complete discretion for a destination wedding. I haven't responded yet but my first inclination is to say that I would agree to work with him to negotiate time if need be, but that all efforts need to be made to make this destination wedding on HIS time and that he cannot simply dictate when it will take place seeing as a wedding involves much pre-planning anyway. That is what seems reasonable to me.
Side note: I remarried a few years ago and made sure that my own wedding did not impact him or his time with the kids in any way. I sort of feel that it isn't his place to mandate this and this is why I didn't make him give up the kids on his time for my own wedding.
Thoughts please!
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The never ending quest to put in place a new "amended" separation agreement is still ongoing. Looks like settlement might be near but I just got sidelined with a demand from the ex today that he's never previously brought up. Says this MUST be in writing for him or it's a deal breaker basically (although I've called his bluff several times before and been right). I am curious to know people's thoughts on this or if anyone has a similar clause in their agreement.
He is demanding that there be a clause in the agreement that states if and when he should remarry, he is entitled to a week of time with the kids at his complete discretion for a destination wedding. I haven't responded yet but my first inclination is to say that I would agree to work with him to negotiate time if need be, but that all efforts need to be made to make this destination wedding on HIS time and that he cannot simply dictate when it will take place seeing as a wedding involves much pre-planning anyway. That is what seems reasonable to me.
Side note: I remarried a few years ago and made sure that my own wedding did not impact him or his time with the kids in any way. I sort of feel that it isn't his place to mandate this and this is why I didn't make him give up the kids on his time for my own wedding.
Thoughts please!
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