My Ex and I are preparing to begin counseling for our 9 year old daughter-in the fall. Daughter does not show abnormal behavioral patterns in my opinion. But counseling was recommended as part of the final OCL report in the fall of 2016 due to conflict during separation of over 3 years ago. I know EX is pushing for this to see if she can change custody /access arrangement.
Counseling was ordered via court order after minutes of settlement was reached on all issues at 2nd settlement conference and then turned into a court order . For that I thank this Forum for providing me with valuable information which allowed me to take this on as a self rep who faced off with an experienced lawyer in court.
We went through I case conference, 2 motions and then 2 settlement conferences . Over the course of 3 years, the OCL, CAS and the Police have been involved because my ex-keeps calling the CAS and they have never found any wrong doing by myself.
Currently Ex and I have a 50-50 access and custody. Ex is not happy with custody and access arrangement and I suspect mainly for financial reasons as I only pay offset child support (that was ordered in May) and she likes being the gatekeeper and wants to make all decisions regarding our daughter with no input from myself.
Because some serious false allegations have been made against me over a 3 year period- I only consented to CLOSED counseling for our daughter which has to be done with a mutually agreeable counselor. But in the end it was included on the order that notes/reports could be released only from both parties written consent or via a court order.
My question: How are child counseling reports and notes treated by the courts? Are they given the same weight like child custody and access assessors reports? I only want to prepared. One never know how biased a counselor could be either way.
We have not chosen counselor yet, but my ex is someone who just cannot stop making false allegations and I am sure she will try and use this opportunity to see if she can get into counselor head and make further allegations to see if they can be included in a future report/notes by the counselor.
Because of this I requested that the sessions be between our daughter and counselor only. Judge said I was reasonable but that we should let counselor decide who can attend. Will I be unreasonable to insist that counselor and daughter only should be at the sessions?
Any inputs will be greatly appreciated.
Counseling was ordered via court order after minutes of settlement was reached on all issues at 2nd settlement conference and then turned into a court order . For that I thank this Forum for providing me with valuable information which allowed me to take this on as a self rep who faced off with an experienced lawyer in court.
We went through I case conference, 2 motions and then 2 settlement conferences . Over the course of 3 years, the OCL, CAS and the Police have been involved because my ex-keeps calling the CAS and they have never found any wrong doing by myself.
Currently Ex and I have a 50-50 access and custody. Ex is not happy with custody and access arrangement and I suspect mainly for financial reasons as I only pay offset child support (that was ordered in May) and she likes being the gatekeeper and wants to make all decisions regarding our daughter with no input from myself.
Because some serious false allegations have been made against me over a 3 year period- I only consented to CLOSED counseling for our daughter which has to be done with a mutually agreeable counselor. But in the end it was included on the order that notes/reports could be released only from both parties written consent or via a court order.
My question: How are child counseling reports and notes treated by the courts? Are they given the same weight like child custody and access assessors reports? I only want to prepared. One never know how biased a counselor could be either way.
We have not chosen counselor yet, but my ex is someone who just cannot stop making false allegations and I am sure she will try and use this opportunity to see if she can get into counselor head and make further allegations to see if they can be included in a future report/notes by the counselor.
Because of this I requested that the sessions be between our daughter and counselor only. Judge said I was reasonable but that we should let counselor decide who can attend. Will I be unreasonable to insist that counselor and daughter only should be at the sessions?
Any inputs will be greatly appreciated.
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