My ex and I have been broken up for about 2 years. Part of the reason we broke up is because he was selling pot and smokes out of the basement. I have not gone to court at all hoping we could take a hold on this situation ourselves. I have had numerous talks with him bout taking his daughter but with no change. He has refused to sign a written agreement in the past wanting to do a verbal agreement instead. I was trying to compromise with him so I agreed. He was still not taking her and when he did take it was inconsistent. We have had our share of problems, but I always tried to let things be for the sake of my daughter. The latest, his girlfriend sent me pictures of my 2 1/2 year old daughter sitting on the toilet, posing, blowing a kiss (which he later admitted he took the pictures). I contacted him through facebook (i changed my cell number due to constant bickering back n forth) telling him I thought the pictures were innapropriate and to stop taking them. He is now saying I accused of porn and abuse, which nowhere in my message does it say that. He hasn't taken my daughter since or even tried to contact me. (a month n a half). I created another agreement, adding I requested a drug test every few months and for him to take his bipolar medication due to anger lash outs in the past). He replied with accusations towards me and making up lies about me wanting to hit his mom which I have a text conversation of her confirming that what he said isn`t true.
I want to go to court for full custody or supervised visits. these are my reasons:
He has sold pot before and I now have a third party telling me he`s selling alcohol - he told third party himself
He smokes pot on a daily basis
He hasn`t raised my daughter since birth. He has taken her numerous times but inconsistently and 90% of the time, its his girlfriend watching her or shes playing with his girlfriend`s daughter. The father-daughter interaction is very minimal.
He has missed so many visitations without notifying me at all or 95% of the time be 1-2hrs late to pick her up or bring her back.
He has no desire in reaching out to her between visitations (I used to live 5 minutes from his house, when id pass by him on the street I would stop and ask him if he`d like to say hi to our daughter, If I didnt, he wouldnt say anything and just keep walking right passed her)
He has attended maybe 2-4 doctor visits throughout the past 2 years although I have reminded him about all of them.
Every weekend he was supposed to take her 90% of the time I had to message him to ask him if he was taking her or not, and half the time id get no reply and no show ups.
He has anger problems
-During our relationship he has punched holes in the walls numerous times.
-Has sped up on the road with my baby daughter in the backseat, I had to yell at him to park somewhere n cool down.
-He has ran his car into a fence because of anger.
His priorities are all over the place. He plans his life around our daughter instead of planning daughter around his life, has not shown up for visitation due to interviews, fight with girlfriend, had to go to junkyard for car parts, had to clean the car...etc)
His girlfriend has put a swimmers diaper on my daughter due to lack of diapers in the home and has brought my daughter back after lunch without lunch being given and not telling me about it.
He has taken pictures of my daughter on the toilet posing for him.
He currently lives in a 1 bedroom apartment with is girlfriend and her daughter and a golden retriever. Im guessing they all sleep in the same room, i dont know. My daughter still sleeps in a playpen. (This is inadequate shelter and bedding)
They have told me that he has computer and computer all over the apartment taking space in a tiny 1 bedroom.
90% of the time she would come back to me with the start of a cold when shed never get sick while being at my home when he wouldnt take her for 2 months.
He would send her back with soaked clothes in a bag smelling like rotten milk.
hes been an appearing and disappearing act to my daughter.
All of these reasons have been there before, I just thought he would change and be a father to my daughter which he has failed to do on numerous occasions.
I have called CAS but they said I couldnt do anything without an order.
When i told them he smoked pot, they said to not let her go see him until i go to court.
I have a single family home 30 min from ottawa with my boyfriend of 2 years, our 6 month old daughter and my 2 1/2 year old daughter.
My boyfriend works two jobs to support, I am at home with kids and I also babysit a 3 year old little girl.
Between Rent, bills, food, tuition loan, and daily necessities,
I am in no way capable of affording a lawyer. I need advice have an idea of what im heading for and if these factors are relevant in my case.
I want to go to court for full custody or supervised visits. these are my reasons:
He has sold pot before and I now have a third party telling me he`s selling alcohol - he told third party himself
He smokes pot on a daily basis
He hasn`t raised my daughter since birth. He has taken her numerous times but inconsistently and 90% of the time, its his girlfriend watching her or shes playing with his girlfriend`s daughter. The father-daughter interaction is very minimal.
He has missed so many visitations without notifying me at all or 95% of the time be 1-2hrs late to pick her up or bring her back.
He has no desire in reaching out to her between visitations (I used to live 5 minutes from his house, when id pass by him on the street I would stop and ask him if he`d like to say hi to our daughter, If I didnt, he wouldnt say anything and just keep walking right passed her)
He has attended maybe 2-4 doctor visits throughout the past 2 years although I have reminded him about all of them.
Every weekend he was supposed to take her 90% of the time I had to message him to ask him if he was taking her or not, and half the time id get no reply and no show ups.
He has anger problems
-During our relationship he has punched holes in the walls numerous times.
-Has sped up on the road with my baby daughter in the backseat, I had to yell at him to park somewhere n cool down.
-He has ran his car into a fence because of anger.
His priorities are all over the place. He plans his life around our daughter instead of planning daughter around his life, has not shown up for visitation due to interviews, fight with girlfriend, had to go to junkyard for car parts, had to clean the car...etc)
His girlfriend has put a swimmers diaper on my daughter due to lack of diapers in the home and has brought my daughter back after lunch without lunch being given and not telling me about it.
He has taken pictures of my daughter on the toilet posing for him.
He currently lives in a 1 bedroom apartment with is girlfriend and her daughter and a golden retriever. Im guessing they all sleep in the same room, i dont know. My daughter still sleeps in a playpen. (This is inadequate shelter and bedding)
They have told me that he has computer and computer all over the apartment taking space in a tiny 1 bedroom.
90% of the time she would come back to me with the start of a cold when shed never get sick while being at my home when he wouldnt take her for 2 months.
He would send her back with soaked clothes in a bag smelling like rotten milk.
hes been an appearing and disappearing act to my daughter.
All of these reasons have been there before, I just thought he would change and be a father to my daughter which he has failed to do on numerous occasions.
I have called CAS but they said I couldnt do anything without an order.
When i told them he smoked pot, they said to not let her go see him until i go to court.
I have a single family home 30 min from ottawa with my boyfriend of 2 years, our 6 month old daughter and my 2 1/2 year old daughter.
My boyfriend works two jobs to support, I am at home with kids and I also babysit a 3 year old little girl.
Between Rent, bills, food, tuition loan, and daily necessities,
I am in no way capable of affording a lawyer. I need advice have an idea of what im heading for and if these factors are relevant in my case.
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