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Common Law Issues The law regarding common law relationships is different than in cases of divorce. Discuss the issues that affect unmarried couples here. |
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You might be interested in reading through this thread:
http://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/f...idation-16671/ This will give you an idea of the types of arguments you might hear from the other side. |
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Does he have any credit cards? My ex and I did not have joint cards. He had one and I had no clue he'd been charging things onto it. I thought he had a credit limit of $3000, but I guess they'd been increasing it. He owed $12000 when we split. I got nailed for half, even though I hadn't signed the application, my name was nowhere associated with it and I didn't even know he owed that much.
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Well, this isn't exactly my first rodeo. I have 2 other children besides the 2 that we have together. I have never set foot in a court room nor even mediation regarding either of them and I would like to follow the same path when it comes to these 2. I genuinely believe that this sort of thing should be able to be settled between two mature adults whenever possible.
That being said, if we work around my work schedule then we should each be able to have more than adequate time with them each. I work 7-7 with a days and evenings rotating schedule. I work 3 days for 2 wks then 4 for 2, alternating between week days and week ends and this changes from days to nights on a predictable schedule laid out for the entire year. I have arranged for daycare when the time comes that he finally gets back to work. This will likely be a 8-5 5 day a week job. Between the two of us I think we will be able to accommodate each other's schedules and then I have daycare for when our schedules overlap. So I guess I want to work out whatever allows us both to spend time with the kids and to support ourselves and them adequately. I would like to keep their primary address where it is but beyond that I think that as long as their needs are being met and they are getting enough time with each of us I have no major concerns or expectations. |
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OP was wise not to walk down the aisle with this one! PH - perfect post to direct the OP to. |
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Not sure how accountable I can be for debt he incurred prior to meeting... |
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The only saving grace is that he DOES NOT want to go to court. He will avoid it like the plague as I have plenty of crap to throw out there if he forces my hand. Plus, I can guarantee that he does not want to be on the hook for CS in any way if he can avoid it. I'm more than happy to use that to my advantage. I don't really need it to get by. I might need to cut back and really keep a good hold on my finances, but I can manage. I grew up in poverty so I'm more than capable of juggling things if pressed. The ultimate would be for him to just cut his losses (they aren't many) and go. If I have to take out a loan and toss him a few thousand to help him get on his feet then so be it. We can call that his "buy out" from the house he never contributed to and has no equity. I have been more than fair by offering to pay all the bills so he can save, give him 75% of the house contents, and even offered to assist him once he is out if he really needed it and I was able. I am a very fair person have no desire to see him suffer, despite all the crap he's done to me. The worst part of this whole thing has been learning that you almost need to compromise your morals and values and become someone you're not just to get what's fair. Why the hell should I have to turn into someone I'm not just because I no longer want to be with someone? I'm more than justified in my reasons for wanting to sever the relationship. It's just sad... |
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Read above...he does not want to be on the hook for CS...
Just to clarify things...if you make more then him and you both have the kids 50/50, then it will be you who pays child support not him. |
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You have a really great attitude and you'll get through this well. |
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Indeed, that is accurate right now. However, he is considered "healed" as of next week in terms of his injury and will be required to seek full time employment once that date passes. He is a licensed mechanic, and if history speaks for anything, he will find work paying the same hourly rate as I receive. The 50/50 split may not be exactly 50/50 when all things are factored in and it's likely he would be paying something as I would likely end up having the kids more due to my increased availability. Either way, the only major concern right now is the house. I doubt we would have issue with working out arrangements for the children. If he has a little fear of what could be, so be it. I'm not about to relieve him of this notion.
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