I can't afford our agreement

[Berner_Faith]

How can he plead undue hardship with an income of over $160K?

[arabian]

my ex does it twice a year and loses.

[Rioe]

The main problem I see is that he felt forced to turn down a promotion that would see him working regular hours and offer him more time with his children because it was less money than his current commission style income brings in.

Overall principle is best interests of the children, and that is for them to have time with their dad, and reasonably similar lifestyles in each home.

Obviously the financial situation has changed since the agreement was made. It's just bad luck that he took on the riskier assets along with the debts, and they have done poorly. I'm sure they would have divided assets differently had they known a recession was about to hit. If he is unable to sustain his current payments and can't sell off assets, and can't survive until next tax time for the annual adjustments to CS, he needs to try to get an earlier variation of CS. He also needs to have SS recalculated based on the changes to their mutual incomes and expenses.

If she won't agree to acknowledge this, he needs to go to court. Both of them will provide updated financial statements, and it will become obvious to the judge that he is suffering under the support numbers because he has more debts than she does, and she is capable of supporting herself and putting the kids in daycare. His section 7 expenses for that would be much less than the SS he mentioned.

He may also want to see if that promotion is still available to him, and go for it. It doesn't sound like he gets much time with the children now as he is too busy working. Maybe he could even go for 50-50 custody, which would also give his ex more time to work and support herself.

I doubt undue hardship would go over though. He has options such as downsizing to a smaller home or renting before he hits that point. I thought that was just a way to bring an ex's spouse's income into play though? He doesn't mention that his ex is with someone new.

[arabian]

In my experience judges do not like to change orders. Change of circumstances have to be quite drastic. You can't say "my income is going to decrease" because that is only a projection - not fact.

The decrease in the value of investments is unfortunate but probably would not have any bearing on the court decision. Whether there was economic factors or money blown in a casino... choices were made. Not the ex's concern.

[OrleansLawyer]

How can he plead undue hardship with an income of over $160K?

It would depend on his debts and other obligations. A hard hill to climb but not impossible if that fit his situation.

I doubt undue hardship would go over though. He has options such as downsizing to a smaller home or renting before he hits that point.

A more likely result than reducing his support.

It should be mentioned that the courts do not protect people from making improvident bargains. He made his choice regarding support knowing his income could go up or down; he was banking on up. He also bet his stocks would stay up as well. Is the result unfortunate for him? Certainly. But that was the risk he knowingly walked into; why should his ex suffer for his risk?

[Jackalope39]

A few things....yes she has been with another guy that she has fallen for which is great! I do have a clause stating that if she lives with a guy for 3 months alimony is terminated! I can only hope, but unlikely cause she loves watching me live a lesser lifestyle than I'm use to.
I also have a clause that states if income goes up 20,000 or down that payments can be adjusted! So that is a big option if I was to take the promotion, however I would have to downsize and find ways to clear debt!
As for having undue hardship making 160,000.... That is tough to understand I'm sure but in order to pay her 5200/month I need to make 90,000 gross to pay here although 30,000 will get a tax break!

I do thank many of you for the insight and wisdom! Kids are number 1 and always will, but spousal is way to much to cover with my debt