Only a small percentage of court applications actually go to trial. You don't know what your situation will be so your approach should be, make every step as though you are going to trial, cross all your t's and dot all your i's and make sure you always have a reasonable offer on the table.
Keep control of your lawyer and keep control of your file and keep control of your costs. Don't go to court being extra adversarial just because your lawyer pushes you. Go and seek what you believe is best for you and your children.
Use the opportunity of court applications to get full financial disclosure and supporting statements from your ex. Go over it with a magnifying glass YOURSELF, don't pay your lawyer's office to do a half-ass job by someone who knows nothing about your ex. If anything is missing or inaccurate, don't get into an endless back and forth exchange by your lawyer that costs you $100 for every letter sent. Wait for the case conference, point out to the judge the lack of disclosure and get a court order for her to do the proper financial disclosue. This way you use the time in court and get something out of it, and have an order on record that she was submitting inaccurate financials.
If you are considering mediation, wait until the case conference and ask the judge for court ordered mediation. The judge will love that, it gets the case off of their desk.
If you do your research and learn as much as you can, use a lawyer to get you started and get all your forms filed and in order, then consider representing yourself. You know your situation better than a lawyer that spends 10 minutes listening to you and 50 minutes talking at you. But this is according to your comfort level. Self-rep is full time job and equivalent to a full course load at school learning what you have to do. Many do it and you can be successful, just make sure you are organized, organized, organized.
You can avoid trial altogether if you can get your ex to agree to arbitration or mediation-arbitration. But use the court process to get everthing disclosed and on the table. You can make good use of your ex's court reply to know exactly what arguments she has (or thinks she has) and how to contradict them. If you walk into mediation cold, you will get blindsided and have to think on your feet, if you have the court responses in hand you can go over them and get the facts straight to make your arguments.
Keep control of your lawyer and keep control of your file and keep control of your costs. Don't go to court being extra adversarial just because your lawyer pushes you. Go and seek what you believe is best for you and your children.
Use the opportunity of court applications to get full financial disclosure and supporting statements from your ex. Go over it with a magnifying glass YOURSELF, don't pay your lawyer's office to do a half-ass job by someone who knows nothing about your ex. If anything is missing or inaccurate, don't get into an endless back and forth exchange by your lawyer that costs you $100 for every letter sent. Wait for the case conference, point out to the judge the lack of disclosure and get a court order for her to do the proper financial disclosue. This way you use the time in court and get something out of it, and have an order on record that she was submitting inaccurate financials.
If you are considering mediation, wait until the case conference and ask the judge for court ordered mediation. The judge will love that, it gets the case off of their desk.
If you do your research and learn as much as you can, use a lawyer to get you started and get all your forms filed and in order, then consider representing yourself. You know your situation better than a lawyer that spends 10 minutes listening to you and 50 minutes talking at you. But this is according to your comfort level. Self-rep is full time job and equivalent to a full course load at school learning what you have to do. Many do it and you can be successful, just make sure you are organized, organized, organized.
You can avoid trial altogether if you can get your ex to agree to arbitration or mediation-arbitration. But use the court process to get everthing disclosed and on the table. You can make good use of your ex's court reply to know exactly what arguments she has (or thinks she has) and how to contradict them. If you walk into mediation cold, you will get blindsided and have to think on your feet, if you have the court responses in hand you can go over them and get the facts straight to make your arguments.
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