Hi again everybody
I am so frustrated with my lawyer. She is not listening to me and the warnings I gave her about my ex and his lawyer have all come true - they have done exactly what I said they would do. I have already spent a lot of money, time's a wasting, and she has not filed a motion yet. She keeps talking about how nice my ex's lawyer is, and how she is trying to be reasonable, and they just sent an offer asking for 100% of my income in support (not 50, not 75, 100%)!
If we are starting negotiations at that point then this will go nowhere.
My ex doesn't want to settle because he doesn't have to. He is not picking up the kids (just had to talk him into a little visit today after he hadn't seen them for a week) and still running up the credit cards, etc. He is trying to be unreasonable to run up my bill and get his own way.
My lawyer knows he is abusive (she has heard him acting like Mel Gibson), knows his name is still on title to the house and he is not looking after his kids, hiding his finances, stealing etc. yet she still wants to negotiate. She has given me no advice on possible outcomes except "I can't guarantee this" and "I can't guarantee that". Not advice worth hundreds of dollars an hour imo.
I went to court a couple of years ago (he served me) and the judge told him he was full of it and recommended he move out and give me the equity in the house. Duty counsel has told me I am capable of doing this myself and I think I am wasting my time and money on a lawyer. My family is pressuring me to use one but they haven't been "in the system" themselves so they are just nervous. I know my case better than I could explain to a lawyer, and if I have to type it out for them to regurgitate to a judge, then why am I paying them? Furthermore I don't think he has disclosed anything to his lawyer, from the positions she is taking. There is a lot of equity at stake, so my suspicion is the lawyers are colluding to drag this out. So my question is, those who settled their case, (not those who are still in the middle) is if you had to do it all over again would you use a lawyer or would you do it yourself, and how much did you have to spend to settle? What exactly can a lawyer do that a layman can't do with the help of FLIC ?
I am so frustrated with my lawyer. She is not listening to me and the warnings I gave her about my ex and his lawyer have all come true - they have done exactly what I said they would do. I have already spent a lot of money, time's a wasting, and she has not filed a motion yet. She keeps talking about how nice my ex's lawyer is, and how she is trying to be reasonable, and they just sent an offer asking for 100% of my income in support (not 50, not 75, 100%)!
If we are starting negotiations at that point then this will go nowhere.
My ex doesn't want to settle because he doesn't have to. He is not picking up the kids (just had to talk him into a little visit today after he hadn't seen them for a week) and still running up the credit cards, etc. He is trying to be unreasonable to run up my bill and get his own way.
My lawyer knows he is abusive (she has heard him acting like Mel Gibson), knows his name is still on title to the house and he is not looking after his kids, hiding his finances, stealing etc. yet she still wants to negotiate. She has given me no advice on possible outcomes except "I can't guarantee this" and "I can't guarantee that". Not advice worth hundreds of dollars an hour imo.
I went to court a couple of years ago (he served me) and the judge told him he was full of it and recommended he move out and give me the equity in the house. Duty counsel has told me I am capable of doing this myself and I think I am wasting my time and money on a lawyer. My family is pressuring me to use one but they haven't been "in the system" themselves so they are just nervous. I know my case better than I could explain to a lawyer, and if I have to type it out for them to regurgitate to a judge, then why am I paying them? Furthermore I don't think he has disclosed anything to his lawyer, from the positions she is taking. There is a lot of equity at stake, so my suspicion is the lawyers are colluding to drag this out. So my question is, those who settled their case, (not those who are still in the middle) is if you had to do it all over again would you use a lawyer or would you do it yourself, and how much did you have to spend to settle? What exactly can a lawyer do that a layman can't do with the help of FLIC ?
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