My ex will approach me with a request (order) that we never discussed prior and then say, “it is for the children” in order to support her viewpoint/wishes.
I have no issues with working together in their (or our) best interest but when it consistently is subjective requests, something we never discussed together prior and one-sided it is frustrating.
If I say something back along the lines of, “I have a different perspective can we talk about that...” or “have you considered...” or even if I ask a single question it then turns into an argument and I get the, “see you are impossible to work with argument” in return accompanied with a multitude of smirks visible agitation and a variety of accusations. If I then say, “I am not having an argument” or try to walk away I get blamed for that and it continues.
If our separation agreement was finalized this wouldn’t be a major concern and I could better navigate around it or avoid it altogether. However, I don’t want to bow down to something that I don’t support just to flatter her- and protect myself- but I also don’t want to give her all the power or even worse any ammo to use against me concerning my parenting style, inflexibility and unwillingness to “co-parent” as we move towards our court date. Especially when she is pursuing full custody and has falsely accused me of abuse. I feel stuck in the middle of right verses wrong and I don’t know which way is up anymore.
I have no issues with working together in their (or our) best interest but when it consistently is subjective requests, something we never discussed together prior and one-sided it is frustrating.
If I say something back along the lines of, “I have a different perspective can we talk about that...” or “have you considered...” or even if I ask a single question it then turns into an argument and I get the, “see you are impossible to work with argument” in return accompanied with a multitude of smirks visible agitation and a variety of accusations. If I then say, “I am not having an argument” or try to walk away I get blamed for that and it continues.
If our separation agreement was finalized this wouldn’t be a major concern and I could better navigate around it or avoid it altogether. However, I don’t want to bow down to something that I don’t support just to flatter her- and protect myself- but I also don’t want to give her all the power or even worse any ammo to use against me concerning my parenting style, inflexibility and unwillingness to “co-parent” as we move towards our court date. Especially when she is pursuing full custody and has falsely accused me of abuse. I feel stuck in the middle of right verses wrong and I don’t know which way is up anymore.
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