Ya and it's real messy.
Basics.
Married 1990
Separated in 1999. At that time there was a court action over the kid with me winning shared custody no support. No property settlement but of course my house was tied up as the matrimonial home.
During the time of shared custody she eventually bought a house closer to me. She also ended up with several mental health issues and according to her doctor diagnosed as a paranoid Schizophrenic. During that time the CAS removed the children from her care at least three times into my care.
The last time they where removed was just before a major incident where she went to her sisters and brother inlaws house. She apparently took all her meds at once than went for a walk in the woods ( there is a reason for mentioning this event). There was a massive search with helicopters, dogs, and 25 police officers to comb the Central Ont woods. She was found bitten ( blackfly season ) but alive. After a week in the ward she was released but said that she was kidnapped and taken to a hunt camp by the above brother inlaw. I ignored all the delusions but this one as it impeded interaction of the children and their aunt and uncle.
After this incident she then decided that she would make a property settlement. I signed off on her HOOP pension she signed off the house to me.
She then lost the children again. Not wanting to subject the children more supervised visits and because she lived close to me I suggested that she could hang with the kids while I worked in my workshop at home.
We ended up getting back together. Unasked she paid off some some overdue property tax, work debts on her line of credit.
I did some work on her house then she sold it and resided at my house.
I had planned to build a small addition to allow the children ( now 8 & 10) to have separate bedrooms. But she insisted and planned on a larger addition. At this point I stopped doing any work outside the home and went to work fulltime in the addition as well as doing all the household chores,meals laundry etc etc. She used her line of credit/ pay/ visa to go and purchase the materials of her choice. She went big because I was saving us lots of money by doing all the work myself including making trim and windows. This was over the course of a couple of years
She paid for a van that was used as a family vehicle for trips to Florida as well as transportation for me. I suggested a cheap $2k van but she insisted on one worth $7500. This van damaged by our son ( about $2k worth) and then motor went. She never replaced it. I walked for about three months till I was able to purchase another one this spring.
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She is a nurse making $75k a year. My business never picked up after that and the economic bombshell dropped. I looked for work as best I could but being 55 there was slow response. I was also hesitant to go away to work because of her mental health issues and in the back of my mind think that somehow she would try and say I left.
In the last couple of years we have come to differences over the discipline of the kids. She totally pandered them, allowed to run amok, supplied the with alcohol underage etc.
This summer she refused to go on a sailing trip with the above bro inlaw because she had issues with him. When pressed she again said that she was kidnapped.
Today I got served. She is trying to make responsible for the $60k line of credit. The papers are for the unjust enrichment clause and basically trying to force sale of the house.
She bought at house and obtained a $92,000 mortgage before she left.
I don't want to leave. I brought this house into the marriage in 86', fought and won it once.
How do I approach a lawyer and with what kind of game plan?
I had 0 income in 2010 and 2011, and did all the domestic duties as well as build the renovations. Claim for support?
Of course have no credit rating. I am presently working but not much cash. I started a job in June and did giver her money towards bills but I have no receipts.
Any ideas are welcome. The van that she says I owe her is in a wrecking yard not far from her house and is still in her name. Can I just take it to her? etc etc
Basics.
Married 1990
Separated in 1999. At that time there was a court action over the kid with me winning shared custody no support. No property settlement but of course my house was tied up as the matrimonial home.
During the time of shared custody she eventually bought a house closer to me. She also ended up with several mental health issues and according to her doctor diagnosed as a paranoid Schizophrenic. During that time the CAS removed the children from her care at least three times into my care.
The last time they where removed was just before a major incident where she went to her sisters and brother inlaws house. She apparently took all her meds at once than went for a walk in the woods ( there is a reason for mentioning this event). There was a massive search with helicopters, dogs, and 25 police officers to comb the Central Ont woods. She was found bitten ( blackfly season ) but alive. After a week in the ward she was released but said that she was kidnapped and taken to a hunt camp by the above brother inlaw. I ignored all the delusions but this one as it impeded interaction of the children and their aunt and uncle.
After this incident she then decided that she would make a property settlement. I signed off on her HOOP pension she signed off the house to me.
She then lost the children again. Not wanting to subject the children more supervised visits and because she lived close to me I suggested that she could hang with the kids while I worked in my workshop at home.
We ended up getting back together. Unasked she paid off some some overdue property tax, work debts on her line of credit.
I did some work on her house then she sold it and resided at my house.
I had planned to build a small addition to allow the children ( now 8 & 10) to have separate bedrooms. But she insisted and planned on a larger addition. At this point I stopped doing any work outside the home and went to work fulltime in the addition as well as doing all the household chores,meals laundry etc etc. She used her line of credit/ pay/ visa to go and purchase the materials of her choice. She went big because I was saving us lots of money by doing all the work myself including making trim and windows. This was over the course of a couple of years
She paid for a van that was used as a family vehicle for trips to Florida as well as transportation for me. I suggested a cheap $2k van but she insisted on one worth $7500. This van damaged by our son ( about $2k worth) and then motor went. She never replaced it. I walked for about three months till I was able to purchase another one this spring.
.
She is a nurse making $75k a year. My business never picked up after that and the economic bombshell dropped. I looked for work as best I could but being 55 there was slow response. I was also hesitant to go away to work because of her mental health issues and in the back of my mind think that somehow she would try and say I left.
In the last couple of years we have come to differences over the discipline of the kids. She totally pandered them, allowed to run amok, supplied the with alcohol underage etc.
This summer she refused to go on a sailing trip with the above bro inlaw because she had issues with him. When pressed she again said that she was kidnapped.
Today I got served. She is trying to make responsible for the $60k line of credit. The papers are for the unjust enrichment clause and basically trying to force sale of the house.
She bought at house and obtained a $92,000 mortgage before she left.
I don't want to leave. I brought this house into the marriage in 86', fought and won it once.
How do I approach a lawyer and with what kind of game plan?
I had 0 income in 2010 and 2011, and did all the domestic duties as well as build the renovations. Claim for support?
Of course have no credit rating. I am presently working but not much cash. I started a job in June and did giver her money towards bills but I have no receipts.
Any ideas are welcome. The van that she says I owe her is in a wrecking yard not far from her house and is still in her name. Can I just take it to her? etc etc
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