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Old 12-09-2019, 06:27 PM
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Does anyone have any experience with the Voice of the Child report process?

What does it entail?
Is it stressful for the children?
How much weight is this given in court?

A judge has endorsed this in my case so I was wondering what we can expect.


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Old 12-10-2019, 02:21 PM
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I dont have any experience but wanted to know how your motion went other than endorsing a voc.

I cant imagine it will be in your ex’s favour!!
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Old 12-11-2019, 08:27 AM
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I dont have any experience but wanted to know how your motion went other than endorsing a voc.

I cant imagine it will be in your ex’s favour!!


The judge had many questions for my ex....like why are we here after only 2 years when nothing has changed....and why are you only ok with asking for 50/50 now after 10 years?

She said that our schedule is one of the craziest she’s ever seen (remember, it is based around his shift work schedule since he can only parent on his days off, eye roll).

She said that after all this time, 50/50 may not be the answer, and there are many factors to consider. However, she said we needed to work out a better schedule for the kids at least - which I agree with. I’ve always thought it should be about consistency for them, not what days are best for him.

She said a Voice of the Child report seemed appropriate given the kids’ ages. I agree with that. I am also fairly confident that the kids will voice in favour of the status quo. We will see....


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Old 12-11-2019, 09:48 AM
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are we talking an OCL report? are you in Ontario?

It's a shitty long process.
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Old 12-11-2019, 09:56 AM
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Lol I love that after all his blustering and threats he ended up getting beat by the judge. What was his reaction?
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Old 12-11-2019, 09:56 AM
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No not OCL. We were told that our case would never be seen by OCL because there isn’t enough conflict. OCL is paid for by the government and as the pot runs out for this, less and less people are being approved for it.
Instead, we have to pay privately for a social worker (maybe it’s a psychologist, not sure) who will come observe the kids, question them and then write a report. They don’t make recommendations, just make the children’s wishes known if they can ascertain them.


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Old 12-11-2019, 10:01 AM
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that's crazy expensive. like 20k expensive isn't it?
but I've heard it's more thorough.

my lawyer was suggesting a "brief scoped assessment"- which is like a mini-report focused on one or two issues. it runs about $4-5k. That may be an option? And you can focus the assessment on access schedule instead of custody issues.
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Old 12-11-2019, 01:59 PM
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I was forced into a private parenting assessment. He wanted it, so he paid for the entire thing. Retainer was 11K and our assessor was a psychologist. Results--he got slammed; it completely backfired on him. He thought the kids would be taken away from me. Nope and he was exposed for the a$$hole jerk he is.
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Old 12-11-2019, 11:14 PM
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Lol I love that after all his blustering and threats he ended up getting beat by the judge. What was his reaction?


I don’t think he’s happy with this outcome. He sort of seemed backed into a corner. I think he was hoping we’d mediate first but my lawyer said why would we before the VOC? His lawyer agreed on the spot.
I am actually wondering if the VOC will all happen. My guess is he tries asking/manipulating the kids before he spends his money, as he’d want to guarantee a good outcome for his thousands of dollars.


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Old 12-11-2019, 11:15 PM
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that's crazy expensive. like 20k expensive isn't it?
but I've heard it's more thorough.

my lawyer was suggesting a "brief scoped assessment"- which is like a mini-report focused on one or two issues. it runs about $4-5k. That may be an option? And you can focus the assessment on access schedule instead of custody issues.


The lawyers and judge seemed to agree it would be around 4K each. Which is awful, but well worth it if it just puts this to rest.


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