Case conference was a total waste of time.
Main issue is access time. There are a few other minor issues.
I've had 99% access with our two kids for the past several years.
Past few months the ex decided he wanted the kids more. We worked up to what is in our separation agreement and that is 70/30 split on the time.
All is going well so far with the kids.
He wants 50%.
I'm not going for it. I don't think it's good for the kids. Lots of reasons - all valid in my opinion.
The judge would not tell his opinion on any of our issues today because he may be our trial judge.
He didn't push us to resolve anything. I was the one that repeatedly asked for mediation. He said we can book it if we want and my ex never commented. The judge kept talking about when they have trials and how trials go etc.
I was expecting him to discourage trial but I got the impression he is banking on it for our case.
He told us we can file paperwork and make request for settlement conference if we want it. He noted that if we both do nothing the case will not proceed any further.
Judge suggested OCL involvement to assist him at the trial re: what to do with two capable parents who both want more time with their kids.
I said I wasn't in agreement because I don't think we are a high needs case and I worry it will delay our case.
Judge said he wasn't accusing me of anything but he said it is a red flag to him that I don't want the assessment and I may have something to hide. (that offended me but I just said 'yes your Honour')
Judge said he won't order the OCL involvement at this time and my ex said nothing about it.
Now I wait to be served re: the SC.
Question - should I send a letter to the ex's lawyer asking if they want to schedule mediation? I suspect they will say no but I am hoping we can negotiate (i.e. I'll take less money to keep the time I have?). I also think I need a paper trail to show I'm trying in case there is a trial.
Good luck out there people.
Main issue is access time. There are a few other minor issues.
I've had 99% access with our two kids for the past several years.
Past few months the ex decided he wanted the kids more. We worked up to what is in our separation agreement and that is 70/30 split on the time.
All is going well so far with the kids.
He wants 50%.
I'm not going for it. I don't think it's good for the kids. Lots of reasons - all valid in my opinion.
The judge would not tell his opinion on any of our issues today because he may be our trial judge.
He didn't push us to resolve anything. I was the one that repeatedly asked for mediation. He said we can book it if we want and my ex never commented. The judge kept talking about when they have trials and how trials go etc.
I was expecting him to discourage trial but I got the impression he is banking on it for our case.
He told us we can file paperwork and make request for settlement conference if we want it. He noted that if we both do nothing the case will not proceed any further.
Judge suggested OCL involvement to assist him at the trial re: what to do with two capable parents who both want more time with their kids.
I said I wasn't in agreement because I don't think we are a high needs case and I worry it will delay our case.
Judge said he wasn't accusing me of anything but he said it is a red flag to him that I don't want the assessment and I may have something to hide. (that offended me but I just said 'yes your Honour')
Judge said he won't order the OCL involvement at this time and my ex said nothing about it.
Now I wait to be served re: the SC.
Question - should I send a letter to the ex's lawyer asking if they want to schedule mediation? I suspect they will say no but I am hoping we can negotiate (i.e. I'll take less money to keep the time I have?). I also think I need a paper trail to show I'm trying in case there is a trial.
Good luck out there people.
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