When my daughter's dad and I separated- she was only 16 months old. She didn't know much about what was going on and because regular access resumed shortly after separation- she didn't have gaps with seeing her dad.
I was the primary caregiver for her- and then my mom as she had moved in with us during the week to help care for our daughter. Since we moved to my parents place- it was a really easy transition for her.
However, she just turned two and asks to see dada sometimes- not often, and not crying just "want to see dada, want to go to dada". She sees her dad once during the week and all day one day on the weekend. This will likely be changing shortly- to increase and expand parenting time.
I talk openly about her dad when she asks and there are pictures of the two of them around her bedroom. But I'm not routinely talking about him.
I don't, however, offer to call dad- because, only until recently, there were bail conditions that prohibited him contacting her and me outside of the access schedule. However, those have been removed.
Because of the high conflict nature of our past- I try to avoid speaking to him if I don't need to...however, I wonder if I should be making the offer for her to facetime with him in the evenings, or call, etc.
I have previously told his sister that I can set up the facetime with our daughter in the evening and just be nearby- but not in the frame or participating. He's never taken me up on it. He's never asked to call her or speak to her.
Did any of you guys separate when your kids were still really young? how did you handle them wanting to see the other parent?
Any tips are welcome.
Thanks in advance.
I was the primary caregiver for her- and then my mom as she had moved in with us during the week to help care for our daughter. Since we moved to my parents place- it was a really easy transition for her.
However, she just turned two and asks to see dada sometimes- not often, and not crying just "want to see dada, want to go to dada". She sees her dad once during the week and all day one day on the weekend. This will likely be changing shortly- to increase and expand parenting time.
I talk openly about her dad when she asks and there are pictures of the two of them around her bedroom. But I'm not routinely talking about him.
I don't, however, offer to call dad- because, only until recently, there were bail conditions that prohibited him contacting her and me outside of the access schedule. However, those have been removed.
Because of the high conflict nature of our past- I try to avoid speaking to him if I don't need to...however, I wonder if I should be making the offer for her to facetime with him in the evenings, or call, etc.
I have previously told his sister that I can set up the facetime with our daughter in the evening and just be nearby- but not in the frame or participating. He's never taken me up on it. He's never asked to call her or speak to her.
Did any of you guys separate when your kids were still really young? how did you handle them wanting to see the other parent?
Any tips are welcome.
Thanks in advance.
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