Quick summmary of our situation. I am a divorced mom of 2 children. I am in the process of moving in with my boyfriend who is a father of 2 children also. All our kids get along amazingly well.
Perfect scenario up to now... he talks to his ex about our plans. She flips, and since then has done everything in her power to keep the kids away from their dad. It has been almost 3 months now since it all started, and things seem to only get worst. Their agreement is for a 50/50 custody arrangement (week on week off), which they followed for over 5 years.
Since the announcement of our move, he has since his children a few hours here and there after lenghty negociations with his ex. The kids are 11 and 13, the ex claims it is for them to decide and basically dismissed their separation agreement. She clearly influenced the children and has been surprisingly successful at it.
My boyfriend has been calm with the situation in general, hoping it would help matters. He has offered the children many opportunities to spend time with him, (and us who they say they love spending time with), but the children become increasingly distant. I have seen them interact with their dad, I have seen them being overjoyed with the news of us all living together, I am appalled to see this happening...
I never had any issues with my own divorce. I am a strong believer in amicable arrangements, especially when it involves children. My boyfriend is the same. But right now, I do not think this situation can continue. How can someone decide an agreement is no longer valid and prevent a very involved father from seeing his kids? There has to be something he can do... would mediation be worth trying in this situation?
Help!
Perfect scenario up to now... he talks to his ex about our plans. She flips, and since then has done everything in her power to keep the kids away from their dad. It has been almost 3 months now since it all started, and things seem to only get worst. Their agreement is for a 50/50 custody arrangement (week on week off), which they followed for over 5 years.
Since the announcement of our move, he has since his children a few hours here and there after lenghty negociations with his ex. The kids are 11 and 13, the ex claims it is for them to decide and basically dismissed their separation agreement. She clearly influenced the children and has been surprisingly successful at it.
My boyfriend has been calm with the situation in general, hoping it would help matters. He has offered the children many opportunities to spend time with him, (and us who they say they love spending time with), but the children become increasingly distant. I have seen them interact with their dad, I have seen them being overjoyed with the news of us all living together, I am appalled to see this happening...
I never had any issues with my own divorce. I am a strong believer in amicable arrangements, especially when it involves children. My boyfriend is the same. But right now, I do not think this situation can continue. How can someone decide an agreement is no longer valid and prevent a very involved father from seeing his kids? There has to be something he can do... would mediation be worth trying in this situation?
Help!
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