Sorry I will be more specific. At Christmas he had 3 night visit with Dad. Child seem to,handle it quite well. So the plan was more visits with overnights graduating from 3 for a couple of the visits and then 4 and so on by the summer the hope was that child would be able to enjoy a week at a time.
But then Dad has decided he will not visit at all and will not arrange for Mom to travel with child to his area. He just ignored the whole topic of visits then suddenly after 3 months announced it was time for child to live with him and he would arrive the following week to take child back to his city for " roughly a month". He had moved and had not disclosed this fact or his new address. She found out when a friend who was looking at houses in his area went to an open house and it was his and it was empty.
He was purchasing a one way ticket for the child and instructed the Mom to " drop off child at airport" as he had a tight turnaround planned. So really that was not a viable option nor well thought out for the child. So she disagreed and lawyers letters ensued discussing the legal interpretation of the agreement.
So then he stated he would only come to take the child back with him and he would determine when he would tell her she could come,and get the child. Now its been close to 6 months and he has emailed again his intention. To come to pick up his son.
She maintains its too long an absence and he needs to build some father son connection. So we are back to step 1 which was graduating from 2 to 3 overnights. You have to start somewhere.
And child support has never been connected to access by her. You mentioned she should be asking for the child support to be refunded if he was not using it and I stated well he has not paid much of CS support so it was hardly u likely he would follow any additional CS orders. We live with the inept workings of FRO who kindly allow him to do his best lol. Tough to buy new houses, vacations and smoke heavily when you have CS to pay!
But then Dad has decided he will not visit at all and will not arrange for Mom to travel with child to his area. He just ignored the whole topic of visits then suddenly after 3 months announced it was time for child to live with him and he would arrive the following week to take child back to his city for " roughly a month". He had moved and had not disclosed this fact or his new address. She found out when a friend who was looking at houses in his area went to an open house and it was his and it was empty.
He was purchasing a one way ticket for the child and instructed the Mom to " drop off child at airport" as he had a tight turnaround planned. So really that was not a viable option nor well thought out for the child. So she disagreed and lawyers letters ensued discussing the legal interpretation of the agreement.
So then he stated he would only come to take the child back with him and he would determine when he would tell her she could come,and get the child. Now its been close to 6 months and he has emailed again his intention. To come to pick up his son.
She maintains its too long an absence and he needs to build some father son connection. So we are back to step 1 which was graduating from 2 to 3 overnights. You have to start somewhere.
And child support has never been connected to access by her. You mentioned she should be asking for the child support to be refunded if he was not using it and I stated well he has not paid much of CS support so it was hardly u likely he would follow any additional CS orders. We live with the inept workings of FRO who kindly allow him to do his best lol. Tough to buy new houses, vacations and smoke heavily when you have CS to pay!
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