The case conference is coming up, and I'm trying to understand what to expect.
Nothing really notable happens unless its done on consent and you two don't sound like you're close to an agreement yet.
My goal is to go in and point out the reasons why it's in the best interest of the children to spend more time with me, and less with him. And to offer a few options of settlement/resolution.
In my opinion, that's a bad strategy and one that judges don't like much.
The one really valuable argument in the list you gave was the abuse history and it doesn't look favorable to you. You need to work on getting the perception of that fixed....its damaging to you even getting shared custody let alone an inequitable custody split.
Without prejudice, he shows all the signs of a sociopath, and entitlement. Part of my conditions to allow joint custody/more access are for him to seek counselling and show an improvement in his behavior.
Also, given that you are asking for an inequitable division, I'd question why you're saying that its him who has a sense of entitlement.
People like you Janus, are the reason women who get sexually abused don't come forth, and filthy human beings get away with it.
To accuse someone of lying and being at fault for being abused, is sick.
To accuse someone of lying and being at fault for being abused, is sick.
And by the way, false allegations of abuse are VERY common in court and that's because its a tactic that a lot of people try to gain an advantage in court.
You can feign outrage when confronted with this but, make no mistake, courts are well aware that this happens and often recognize that when they see it. There's a lot of push right now to start taking harsher actions against people who make these false allegations so if you're walking into court with no history, supporting police records or other proof....you need to consider how its going to be viewed.
Bottom line, I totally understand that you think you're the best parent for the job but based on the information you've given here...your argument isn't very strong...in fact, you've got some major problems with your case. I think you'd be better off finding a way to negotiate with your ex for a shared/parallel parenting arrangement (and being thankful if you get it).
I also really think you guys need to both stop what you're doing and saying in front of the children right away. You're dragging these kids into adult matters....showing them things they shouldn't see, telling them things they don't need to know. Its really disturbing that there are police reports with witness statements from the kids at all...even worse for you, they aren't in your favor.
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