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Old 10-31-2014, 03:13 PM
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Anything in a E-mail from Goldilocks, rest assured (LAO scumbag lawyer) spent 2 days planning how it was presented.
If he's even still representing her now. He got shut down big time at the motion. His reputation was stained a bit. I think there's a reason Im getting these pretentious e-mails from ex. Perhaps he said "you're on your own .. you made me look like an idiot".

Things I want right away:

1. Her financial info (jurisdiction info)
2. OCL notes, etc
3. Her address.
4. Make up time

I know there are no consequences in family law really. Is make up time realistic? She tore D3 out of my life for nearly a year.
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Old 10-31-2014, 03:19 PM
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Whew!!! when I saw you post I figured you got the "she's" not well call.

LAO lawyer should be hiding out for representing anyone the way he did. He was a complete ass.....hopefully his reputation is more than tarnished.

Have a great weekend with D3...it has been along time coming
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Old 10-31-2014, 03:38 PM
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If he's even still representing her now. He got shut down big time at the motion. His reputation was stained a bit. I think there's a reason Im getting these pretentious e-mails from ex. Perhaps he said "you're on your own .. you made me look like an idiot".

Things I want right away:

1. Her financial info (jurisdiction info)
2. OCL notes, etc
3. Her address.
4. Make up time

I know there are no consequences in family law really. Is make up time realistic? She tore D3 out of my life for nearly a year.
IMO asking for make up time would make you look vengeful, However I would make it very clear that going forward missed visit are 100% not acceptable and you will "TAKING" makeup time if for whatever reason a visit is missed.

I really do mean "TAKING" makeup time. If D3 ever misses any time for whatever reason you take the amount of time missed on your next visit. Just be sure you notify her of your intentions. Say D3 misses a Wed visit. You send her and her lawyer an emails stating that because D3 missed Wed (xx date) you will be keeping her Monday.

You will be, I will guarantee it, getting a call saying d3 is sick and needs her mom so I'm not bringing her to drop off. If that does happen you make it clear that you expect her to be dropped off as you are fully capable of caring for a sick child. If she no shows you follow up...If she still refuses you let her know, after receiving her, on your next visit you will be keeping her 1 day longer.

PS. Enjoy your weekend to the max...I'm sure you have a reunion planned.
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Old 10-31-2014, 08:38 PM
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Dude, I've read up on your crap situation. Enjoy this weekend with D3 and do everything you can to connect with her. Trick-or-treating tonight, colouring, story time, BATH play time. If you are the parent you claim to have always been then just focus on the kid. and remember despite all this NOT to make yourself the "fun" parent long term. She needs rules in your home. But this weekend isn't the weekend to establish that. Just enjoy her, tell her you love her. She's SO young! Good luck. Do the right thing. Focus on HER at a core level despite the legal bull crap you've gone through. Really, good luck. I'm in a similar situation.
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Old 11-01-2014, 12:07 AM
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Well .. Halloween was a complete success. D3 had an amazing time. Laughed, ran house to house and scored a pillow case full of candy. She wore gorgeous "Tinker Bell" costume and had a perma smile the whole time.

She was very shy at the start. Just making odd noises and yelling in the backseat. This was her way to express herself in a time of confusion and misunderstanding. Of course then she said "Daddy .. I miss you and love you"...right out of the blue. She's just such a lovely child.

The exchange? Very interesting. Ex showed up alone (I thought for sure she'd have a witness or something). She packed a bag of clothes (which I doubt Ill touch since I have everything she needs) and gave me a list of things D3 does now (night lights, brushing teeth herself, sleeping habits, etc). She was sure to write "This isn't to instruct you what to do with her or anything, just to be clear".

She came right up to my vehicle, we looked each other in the eyes and I just said "thanks" and was on my merry way.

D3 and I had a great night. I missed her so damn much. She said mommy and her have a "new" house again. Guess they moved? Again?

Tomorrow D3 gets to be in a home that she hasn't been in for 9 months .. her nanny's.

It was a great night. I just don't want to see her leave for 2 weeks (Wednesdays only starting on Nov. 18th).

Happy Halloween.
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Old 11-01-2014, 12:34 AM
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I don't have my kids this Halloween. But reading this, and following your story since April, made my night. Good for you and D3, buddy.
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Old 11-01-2014, 12:35 AM
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I feel you grinning in your elation. Hearing her say that she loves / misses you must have been the totality towards a heart exploding in sheer joy! Congrats dude! seems like your ex wasn't to be feared this time around. Let's hope this continues. And D3 certainly provided you with what you (understandably) needed to hear / feel.

Do the due diligence that she knows you miss / love her too. Not by words, but by ACTION. This will resonate further for her than you could possibly ever know.

Thrilled for you! ENJOY! Be simply "dad" as you know you can.

Happy Halloween to you. Now GET OFF THIS SITE and crawl in with your kid, hold her tight and let her know how much she's got her daddy's pure love... Good night to you, sir, and don't pop back in here until your "time's up" with D3. That's an order. ENJOY. Simply ENJOY every hour / second / minute of her. We'll find out in due time. Shoo!
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Old 11-01-2014, 02:09 AM
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Great! you have D3

SAD a exchange...STILL?

SO the new newer NOVEMBER house/apt just because Goldilocks lost at Motion.

Geeze Goldilocks was hoping for you to croak under the bus.. To bad you did a Bruce Willis and are around for the sequel

By Monday your going to be PUMPED for your kid....natural

Kids are highly adaptable....they understand nothing until just over 12

AS good parents you want this bullsh!t over LONG prior to a kid turning 12

New places to live...."exchanges"......kits of stuff for a kid....better STOP

Mom cares so much ..she gave D3's health card....it was in the KIT right?

Can you ask for "EVERYTHING" child related at "EXCHANGES"

No stability obviously for D3.....stability is a work in PROGRESS for Goldilocks

Acknowledgement .....Goldilocks see's you winning custody, sure why not child abduction with allegations was her case...POOF GONE

! agree with some of the folk here...why ask for "back time".....the reason you didn't see your child for 8 months was.....WHAT?

SO Goldilocks's did what during those 8 months....was cautious...was concerned...encouraged contact....OR was hopeful you lost custody?

Sole Custody goes to the parent that will accommodate access....NOTHING Goldilocks did encouraged access....EXACT OPPOSITE

Motion Judge forced this (actually EM Judge..CC Judge..then Motion Judge)

Status QUO is gone for Goldilocks.....she's scrambling back to Ontario,,,,how many addresses is that now?

Bet there's gaps on where she lived.

Goldilocks is in your town, doing access too little to late and still with stupid exchanges. (hide the uncles house)

You win Jurisdiction LF32.....because Goldilocks is hiding motives, she's very aware of this stuff. (still playing games...and new apartments financed by old goat)

Need the residencies Goldilocks has had for Court....is it ALL Action Houses to where-ever she is at now. ...or GAPS.....( I bet GAPS)

Goldilocks took off in July.....she left a little to fast.

Old Goat should of shut her mouth (too over confident)

Your job (with kids)...the GF (stability)...the lies....the taking off.....I think Goldilocks SHOULD pretend to live in your town and do access.

but she doesn't'' WANT to do that ....she does it out of fear(losing custody)...there's a difference.

keep your stick on the ice....hope for the best

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Old 11-01-2014, 01:51 PM
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I was wondering about what happened but it feels good knowing you didnt get screwed. Enjoy your weekend. Looking forward to hearing how it went Monday!
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Old 11-01-2014, 02:10 PM
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Mr. T has nailed it bang on yet again.

Stability is something that your ex is going to have a difficult time proving. New home AGAIN? Is she seriously moving each and every time or "couch surfing" at friends? I would hazard a guess that it is money-centred. Now that the count has sent a resounding message that they do not believe her allegations I wonder if the shelters have finally cut her loose and told her to find her own flipping place to live? It sickens me that people like your ex can continue to suck on the system when there are legitimate cases out there.

I am pleased you had Halloween with your daughter as well as a visit to grandparents. Nice for your daughter to have a "normal" weekend for a change.
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