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Old 11-10-2014, 09:41 PM
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for some reason I think the two posters in question are the same person. Not sure but just a feeling.
The situations are very similar, one signs out and the other signs in
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Old 11-10-2014, 09:46 PM
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I've also noticed English isn't the first language of either.
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I know that ex now has a car. Is it unreasonable to ask that we meet half way?
We now meet at D3's playgroup area (same area ex supposedly lives in). Ex said she's willing to meet in this area. I don't want to sound combative but I would prefer a half way meeting point. Is this nit picking?

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Nit picking. As in, picking louse eggs from so's hair.
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Nit picking. As in, picking louse eggs from so's hair.
Figure of speech. Yeah a gross one.
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Old 11-11-2014, 04:19 PM
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IMO, I leave this be for now.

You could suggest that each parent be responsible for picking up the child for their parenting time. But outside that, I'd likely leave it. All three of you have been through enough, no need to immediately ruffle feathers at the first opportunity.

Maybe next time you are emailing each other about transportation you can broach the topic, but expect resistance.

Also, don't agree to something that causes you to have to rely on the ex. Meeting 1/2 way means you have to rely on them to get the child there. You are better off taking the ex out of the equation as much as possible in this regard. The ex will never have the same motivation for you to spend time with your kid as you will. If they are late, don't expect much consideration or compassion.
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A little known factoid.....the custodial parent dosen't have to pick up or drop off the child(s)

Thats the access parents problem.

This issue came up for me long ago when I complained to my lawyer, that the ex was bitching about my unsafe car, the way I drove, that I didn't have proper booster seats... so I ranted to the lawyer...why didn't she do half the friggin driving and stfu....anyways thats the short answer THE ACCESS PARENT IS RESPONSIBLE FOR ALL TRANSPORTATION

Obviously Goldilocks (the perpetual victim) isn't a custodial parent if she's doing exchanges.

It's a small item doing the pickups/dropoffs a psuedo custodial parent should be aware of, because this small item becomes the NORM...and the NORM get's lumped in with staus quo. (why disturb it?)

Goldilocks is doing herself no favors....she's still at no fixed address, and isn't entrenching her custody claim.

I'd say fukall about it and bring it forward later in your brief.

What I would focus on is health welfare and education stuff.....to be a part of that

This is huge also for who took D3 to activites, doc's, dentist...prior to the relationship meltdown....Goldilocks is going to say she did all the custodial parent stuff and all you did was work and do drugs.


HOW can a welfare recipent have a car, with insurance, gas..e.t.c?
They are to have NO assests. NO other income.
YOU need a updated FORM 13 for SC/TMC

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At least OCL's visit with D3's pediatrician revealed I was there every visit. The Dr. even noted no concern over drugs, etc.

D3 is 3. Don't kids this young get free consultations from optometrist,. dentists, etc? I should go get all of these. Not to mention I should get her in to see my family Dr. I could do that tomorrow probably. We'll see is what ex claims is true .. that D3 doesn't react well to "male" doctor's. BS. Just like attachment issues. Hasn't asked for ex once...not even to call her.

They offer a really cool "jazz dance class" for kids 3-5 yrs" Wednesday evenings. I'm thinking that may be a great idea.

Regarding school. The time is coming to get ready for junior kindergarten. Problem is ex says she only wants her to go to senior kindergarten (presumably for more time off work). I need to bring this up in a sensitive fashion. D3 would flourish in even a half day setting.

These things need to be brought up.

I haven't sent that e-mail yet. I'll leave out the money stuff and the exchange spot crap and stick to other issues. I just want to word it perfectly.
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HOW can a welfare recipent have a car, with insurance, gas..e.t.c?
They are to have NO assests. NO other income.
YOU need a updated FORM 13 for SC/TMC
That's not true. They can only have so many assets and can have a limited amount of income before OW takes it dollar for dollar. How do you know the car doesn't belong to a family member who is paying for it?
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Heard through the grapevine her dad's letting her use it .. or bought it for her .. or something like that. Either way .. she's got wheels.
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