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Old 05-13-2014, 10:01 AM
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My partners ex is playing games again. She's looking for re-imbursement for a school trip and says the school won't give her a receipt. Why a parent will hand over $300 and not expect a receipt is beyond me. Problem is, the school secretary is a friend of hers and is stonewalling him. He's calling the school board right now to see what he can find out. She thinks sending him a copy of the cheque she's writing is enough. He's got a response drafted on several other issues (this is just one of the many this week) and wanted to respond to this. He keeps telling her no receipts no payment and then ends up doing the leg work on finding out information so he can document that he knows she's withholding info. This is also an issue of her not sharing information on things. He received no information on this trip other than "it's an end of the year trip out of province". He had to chase down the trip company to get details, locations, how to contact his child etc.

My question is, how should it word it to her that she's a) not adhering to the sharing information clause in the agreement and b) not providing proper receipts yet again?
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Old 05-13-2014, 10:22 AM
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He called the school board. The school admin is getting reprimanded for stonewalling him. And the school doesn't give receipts. Ridiculous.
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Old 05-13-2014, 11:52 AM
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He should be getting information from the school anyway, not his ex.
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Old 05-13-2014, 12:24 PM
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They refuse to tell him anything. Ex is a teacher. And a gatekeeper it seems. Hes been waiting on a call from the principal for three hours now. And from the childs teacher for six months. Superintendent's "reprimand" was ineffective.
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They refuse to tell him anything. Ex is a teacher. And a gatekeeper it seems. Hes been waiting on a call from the principal for three hours now. And from the childs teacher for six months. Superintendent's "reprimand" was ineffective.
Everyone has a boss...

What does their agreement state?

EDIT: It's not your responsibility to get a receipt. If she want's the money she needs the receipt. A returned cheque made out to the school would probably be sufficient in court though

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Old 05-13-2014, 12:28 PM
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What was the $300 for?

Did the child go on the trip?

What is the CS arrangement. Full Support?

Were you asked ahead of time to approve this expense?
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Old 05-13-2014, 12:41 PM
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Agreement states she'll share info with him on the kids education and medical. Only time he hears anything is if it involves money. $300 was for the end of the year trip. She told him back in march it would be about $500. He agreed because its an important activity. She asked the school for a reduction and said cost is $300. He got a receipt from the tour company but its not the right amount she paid, it was the full amount paid to them by the school. The school said all the parents paid the school and then the school made a cheque out to the tour company for the full class total. He called the superintendent who assured him that the school would be spoken to about not providing him with info and told to share info with him going forward. But again, ex is friends with all these people and know her side of the divorce. Every time he has called the school--teacher, principal, admin, he gets promised a call back and then nothing. Either way, her refusal to share medical and educational info with him is against the agreement. He pays full table support (his salary is significantly less than hers though) and only pays expenses agreed to. Its a constant battle for receipts and hes ticked about setting a precedent with this expense by paying without a receipt.

Honestly the whole thing is a mess going back and forth. How hard is it to let your childs father know whats going on with his kids? She pulls this act that they are old enough for him to talk to him but then influences their feelings about speaking to him so they dont call and pulls "well its not my fault you have a horrible relationship with them".
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Old 05-13-2014, 12:59 PM
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IMO, he said he'd pay when it was $500, got a copy of the cheque where the ex paid $300, just pay it.

Yes, she should be receiving information directly from the school. The ex and the school are wrong in not being forthcoming with that info. But your b/f is wrong here. Schools don't generally provide receipts. All you normally get is the notice form they send home. The ex paid it, and has provided a copy of the cancelled receipt. The form from the school would be nice as well, but not really necessary. There is no need to argue over this. She makes more then him, so his proportional share will be less than $150. Just pay it and move on. He has pretty of evidence of the expense, all he is doing right now is arguing over issues with the school. And talking the board won't get him brownie points with the school admin (although, I do agree it is necessary as he hasn't been notified of things in general).

This is one of those cases where he would lose if he refused to pay and it got in front of a judge. You have to pick your battles wisely.
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Old 05-13-2014, 01:19 PM
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Hes not refusing to pay it, he wanted to know the details. He spoke to the principal and they said they will provide a receipt, she hasnt paid the fees yet. Thats why she doesnt have a receipt. Agreement says she'll pay up front and he'll reimburse. She should have a receipt by the end of the day.

Interesting though that they asked for a copy of the sa for files to provide other info. He said he would get back to them. And theyre going to discuss with the teacher about their refusal to respond to his phone calls.
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Hes not refusing to pay it, he wanted to know the details. He spoke to the principal and they said they will provide a receipt, she hasnt paid the fees yet. Thats why she doesnt have a receipt. Agreement says she'll pay up front and he'll reimburse. She should have a receipt by the end of the day.

Interesting though that they asked for a copy of the sa for files to provide other info. He said he would get back to them. And theyre going to discuss with the teacher about their refusal to respond to his phone calls.
Once she can provide you a copy of the cashed cheque I wouldn't pay.

Or work with the school and pay your portion directly to them.
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