BF went to first case conference today. Went horribly bad and the judge basically told him that he would rule 100% in favour of his ex. Is this just this particular judge's opinion or is my bf financially ruined for life? Any help or advice how to proceed is appreciated.
No motions ordered today other than financial disclosure of biological fathers and their support orders (which have not been completed yet).
A little background on the situation - 8 years married, diligently paid according to separation agreement for both biological kids. She found out she could get money for the two kids not his and alimony and now 15 months later is looking to cash in. Judge basically said he didn't care they had drafted a separation agreement.
She was to pay for half the debts and decided not to. She stopped paying and said it was his problem. He tried to keep up but hours cut at work. He has a huge negative equity and credit is falling fast. Judge said she wouldn't be responsible for half, it was 100% his problem.
She denied him access for 3 months and continually keeps them from him for vacation or extra time. She isn't following the existing temporary court order but the judge wanted to change some things based on "her word".
His income has dropped by 20%, soon to be 40%. Overtime cut and her attorney is trying to get him assessed at more than he brings home. She makes cash and is lying about her income and expenses.
Based on the alimony and child support numbers the judge threw out my bf would not have $500 a month to live off. That wouldn't cover rent (he has a basic apartment, nothing fancy) let alone transportation to work and food.
How is he to maintain a job if he can't keep somewhere to live, can't feed himself and can't get to the job to pay her?
We have extensive documentation but judge didn't even want to look at that. It shows the games she has played with access to the children and denial of time.
Any help or advice anyone can offer is appreciated. His lawyer is professional and argued but hers was loud, obnoxious, unprofessional and overpowered the situation. Due to her lying on her income, she has legal aid and we of course do not. We have limited money to fight her.
Is it possible to come out ok or is he doomed? Any suggestions on how to combat this from people who have been there or seen it before?
He is not opposed to paying but wanted to get his kids more (not for a reduction in money but just to spend time with them) and the judge didn't even talk about that.
Any thoughts are appreciated.
Exception
I'm going through my own issues but that is for another post...
No motions ordered today other than financial disclosure of biological fathers and their support orders (which have not been completed yet).
A little background on the situation - 8 years married, diligently paid according to separation agreement for both biological kids. She found out she could get money for the two kids not his and alimony and now 15 months later is looking to cash in. Judge basically said he didn't care they had drafted a separation agreement.
She was to pay for half the debts and decided not to. She stopped paying and said it was his problem. He tried to keep up but hours cut at work. He has a huge negative equity and credit is falling fast. Judge said she wouldn't be responsible for half, it was 100% his problem.
She denied him access for 3 months and continually keeps them from him for vacation or extra time. She isn't following the existing temporary court order but the judge wanted to change some things based on "her word".
His income has dropped by 20%, soon to be 40%. Overtime cut and her attorney is trying to get him assessed at more than he brings home. She makes cash and is lying about her income and expenses.
Based on the alimony and child support numbers the judge threw out my bf would not have $500 a month to live off. That wouldn't cover rent (he has a basic apartment, nothing fancy) let alone transportation to work and food.
How is he to maintain a job if he can't keep somewhere to live, can't feed himself and can't get to the job to pay her?
We have extensive documentation but judge didn't even want to look at that. It shows the games she has played with access to the children and denial of time.
Any help or advice anyone can offer is appreciated. His lawyer is professional and argued but hers was loud, obnoxious, unprofessional and overpowered the situation. Due to her lying on her income, she has legal aid and we of course do not. We have limited money to fight her.
Is it possible to come out ok or is he doomed? Any suggestions on how to combat this from people who have been there or seen it before?
He is not opposed to paying but wanted to get his kids more (not for a reduction in money but just to spend time with them) and the judge didn't even talk about that.
Any thoughts are appreciated.
Exception
I'm going through my own issues but that is for another post...
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