Trying to give just the facts is tough, but I'll try.
My ex received an inheritance from his mothers estate about three years before we separated. With it, we decided to pay off our mortgage and buy a cottage.
For several reasons when we separated, I "walked away" from it all not trying to claim half of all the things I was entitled to. When we divided assets we did not include any asset that was purchased with money from the inheritance. I did what I felt was necessary at the time, and did it mostly out of guilt for ending the marriage. I just wanted out at that point at any cost.
Since then, he has a serious girlfriend and a brand new attitude.
He has moved our kids out of the house that he felt so strongly that he needed to keep them in before, and now collects $1500 a month in rent from it. He and the girls live with his girlfriend in a HUGE house (est. value of $475k) with a new pool table, hot tub and new $200 bed covers for the kids. I had to fight tooth and nail to get child support from him which is still not even the full offset amount.
I've had enough. Out of guilt, I have let him treat me badly, and I'm done with it. So, my questions are:
- how does the family court system really deal with inheritance? my lawyer claims that since the money was invested into jointly held matrimonial assets, I have the right to claim half
- how heavily does the court weigh the disparity between homes? Because the disparity right now is unjustifiable as far as I'm concerned. When they're at Moms they don't know if there will be water in the winter time, when they're at dad their biggest worry is if there's enough room in the hot tub for all their friends at once.
I'm trying to decide if I should pursue this or not. He owns three residences; two homes in the city and one four season 'recreational' home or cottage. He can afford all the best in life, while my children are doing their level best NOT to be ashamed to bring friends to Moms (one at atime due to size restrictions) I'm struggling with what my chances are if I take him to court..I can't actually afford the legal bill, but I don't know if I can't afford NOT to. Does anyone have any experience with this particular area?
FRUSTRATED & BROKE !
My ex received an inheritance from his mothers estate about three years before we separated. With it, we decided to pay off our mortgage and buy a cottage.
For several reasons when we separated, I "walked away" from it all not trying to claim half of all the things I was entitled to. When we divided assets we did not include any asset that was purchased with money from the inheritance. I did what I felt was necessary at the time, and did it mostly out of guilt for ending the marriage. I just wanted out at that point at any cost.
Since then, he has a serious girlfriend and a brand new attitude.
He has moved our kids out of the house that he felt so strongly that he needed to keep them in before, and now collects $1500 a month in rent from it. He and the girls live with his girlfriend in a HUGE house (est. value of $475k) with a new pool table, hot tub and new $200 bed covers for the kids. I had to fight tooth and nail to get child support from him which is still not even the full offset amount.
I've had enough. Out of guilt, I have let him treat me badly, and I'm done with it. So, my questions are:
- how does the family court system really deal with inheritance? my lawyer claims that since the money was invested into jointly held matrimonial assets, I have the right to claim half
- how heavily does the court weigh the disparity between homes? Because the disparity right now is unjustifiable as far as I'm concerned. When they're at Moms they don't know if there will be water in the winter time, when they're at dad their biggest worry is if there's enough room in the hot tub for all their friends at once.
I'm trying to decide if I should pursue this or not. He owns three residences; two homes in the city and one four season 'recreational' home or cottage. He can afford all the best in life, while my children are doing their level best NOT to be ashamed to bring friends to Moms (one at atime due to size restrictions) I'm struggling with what my chances are if I take him to court..I can't actually afford the legal bill, but I don't know if I can't afford NOT to. Does anyone have any experience with this particular area?
FRUSTRATED & BROKE !
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