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Old 08-31-2011, 01:52 PM
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Default Omg his ex will be the death of me..(She wants a trial)

I think she wants to go to trial. But yesterday she was bitching about how expensive her Lawyer is. She's a piece of work.

Oct 12 will be my husbands third case conference. She wants 17% more added to her child support because when they first separated Dh was living alone and able to give $500 a month when he was only making 28 a year. So her lawyer is saying he can still afford to give 17% on top of the table amount he is giving. He owns 20% of his families business. We have given all papers and all accounting papers to the judge to prove he is not hiding any money. AND he isn't!! How the hell can A father live and be happy when they have these money hungry ex's? He does provide for section 7. He does everything he is supposed to!!
This will be the death of me.
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Old 08-31-2011, 04:47 PM
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I know no one gives a shit (lol). But I'm seriously going into a downward spiral of depression and I need to know there might be some light at the end of the tunnel.
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Old 08-31-2011, 07:42 PM
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Unfortunately I understand. My partner and his ex were just recently able to avoid court, but only because we believe she started treatment for her mental illness and made some harsh realizations. But still, he's paying full SS and CS for the next few years and being separated myself, its difficult to imagine throwing out my ex and then demanding more and more money! I hope you get help for your depression, I know its a difficult time and its best if you speak to your family doctor about it at the very least. I did, and hesitantly started anti-depressants and wow have they ever made a difference in my life.
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Old 08-31-2011, 08:28 PM
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stay out of it - it's between the two of them
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Old 08-31-2011, 09:13 PM
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Don't stay out of it... That statement from arabian is exactly why our Family law system is so F'd up. Nobody is doing anything to change the injustice..

Write letters... one every night.. to every MP, MLA (MPP), Jounralists (Barbara Kay/ Peter Mansbridge).

Eventually something is going to have to be done to end this incredibly unjust system.

For the record.. I have been paying more in CS and SS than my net pay for 1.5 years. How do I do it? I have borrowed every dime I can from the bank, my parents, and now I am unable to get a variance.. and I take care of the kids 4 nights of the week to her three.
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stay out of it - it's between the two of them
Totally agree with that. New partners should let their partner deal with the issues and keep their noses out of it. Better for everyone in the long run. Support him in the background and do what you want to change laws etc but let him deal with the ex. You will feel better by just keeping quiet and not getting too caught up in it. The more you do the more she will want to drag you into it. Just give her enough rope and she will hang herself.
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In many posts I have seen the "girlfriend" make statements like "we have provided all the information blah blah blah" - with a big emphasis on "we." Most people going through divorce process are stressed out and mistakenly accept their current girlfirend/boyfriend's "help" without thinking about how interfering it is to the other person in the divorce. In my case I have to constantly put up with my ex-husband's new girlfriend calling my lawyer, making nuisance calls to CRA and her screening business calls between myself and my ex. It's bloody annoying, counter-productive and causes many, many problems. My ex-husband knows it annoys me and that is why he probably allows it to happen. I think it somehow boosts his ego. So glad our son is 30 and isn't forced to have anything to do with his adulterating father. Pity those who go through divorces with young families. What a nightmare.
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In many posts I have seen the "girlfriend" make statements like "we have provided all the information blah blah blah" - with a big emphasis on "we." Most people going through divorce process are stressed out and mistakenly accept their current girlfirend/boyfriend's "help" without thinking about how interfering it is to the other person in the divorce. In my case I have to constantly put up with my ex-husband's new girlfriend calling my lawyer, making nuisance calls to CRA and her screening business calls between myself and my ex. It's bloody annoying, counter-productive and causes many, many problems. My ex-husband knows it annoys me and that is why he probably allows it to happen. I think it somehow boosts his ego. So glad our son is 30 and isn't forced to have anything to do with his adulterating father. Pity those who go through divorces with young families. What a nightmare.
What you are describing is maybe a bit extreme for most situations, but majority "girlfriends/spouses" are affected by this situation. It seems that it should be easy to just leave it to the two ex-spouses to deal with the situation, but often it becomes impossible. In my situation I met my new spouse while my other situation seemed to be quite straight forward. W
hen things got serious between us, my ex went nuts. Took me to court to take away 50/50 custody, threatening phone calls, withholding my daughter from visitations, etc. My ex is on legal aid (while receiving welfare and getting paid cash under the table) so she can take me to court for whatever reason she wishes. My now spouse is pulling her hair because of all the bs in our lives. She helps me a lot getting the requested papers together and interviewing/consulting lawyers, cause I have no time to do it. I work full time as a carpenter and my job does not allow because of the noise to speak business with anyone. Taking unnecessary time off is out of question as well since I need the money to pay cs and pay my lawyer out of my pocket. We have a baby together now, so her being a great spouse I don't see her saying to me to deal with my shit on my own. That is what spouses should be there for - to help each other through thin or thick. And if it annoys the other that much as it does my ex, then they are just bothered that the other moved on happily.
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You might have a point but I would then ask you "how would you handle everything if you weren't with a new spouse?" Getting on with your life is wonderful but pitting your "new" spouse against the old one is immature and a pathetic way to avoid dealing with your own issues. How lovely that you have a new spouse who has the time to make your problems with your old wife her new career - that is what it feels like for me anyhow. It would be unthinkable for me to expect my new partner to have anything to do with my ex. It's kind of sick if you really think about it.
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By the way, if you have the time to sit and type into this blog then you certainly have the time to send emails and relate with your lawyer - if you have a decent one.
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