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Old 03-25-2016, 12:07 AM
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... call me dramatic, an abuser, a catfish, a liar .. etc. Now I'm controlling my ex's life by asking for advice about an issue.
Catfish? I have been called a "smelly fish". We finally have something in common.
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Had you pursued sole custody (with generous access to your ex) your daughter would now be benefiting from the positive role model of her step-sister and school attendance likely wouldn't be an issue.

Of course you are going to continue to keep excellent records of everything and should your daughter start missing school, with school grades declining, you could revisit custody.

Perhaps remind the bitch of this?
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Had you pursued sole custody (with generous access to your ex) your daughter would now be benefiting from the positive role model of her step-sister and school attendance likely wouldn't be an issue.

Of course you are going to continue to keep excellent records of everything and should your daughter start missing school, with school grades declining, you could revisit custody.

Perhaps remind the bitch of this?
That's not happening, when you consent to something assume it is never going to change without the hand of god intervening... LF32 consenting was a big mistake.
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I believe LF32 and his ex "consented" to the agreement they now have. If he wants to file for sole custody again he can do so. Would he not have success if he later was able to argue that child's school absence correlates with decline of academic standing?
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Had you pursued sole custody (with generous access to your ex) your daughter would now be benefiting from the positive role model of her step-sister and school attendance likely wouldn't be an issue.

Of course you are going to continue to keep excellent records of everything and should your daughter start missing school, with school grades declining, you could revisit custody.

Perhaps remind the bitch of this?
Arabian has excellent advice and gave me a great laugh today. (See bold.)
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That's not happening, when you consent to something assume it is never going to change without the hand of god intervening... LF32 consenting was a big mistake.
Don't assume the other party knows this. I don't think LF32 consenting was a mistake. You are correct that changing an order made on consent is really hard to do. Because it was made on consent. But, you don't have to tell the other party to the matter this. Some times the fear of god is just as powerful as the hand of god.

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Not sure if you will get my joke but, some long-term posters (Arabian) may...

That was a very "resourceful" link you provided and illustrates it. But, I think the original author was not as "resourceful" as you are.

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I believe LF32 and his ex "consented" to the agreement they now have. If he wants to file for sole custody again he can do so. Would he not have success if he later was able to argue that child's school absence correlates with decline of academic standing?
The order states that my ex had to explore "relocating" to my neck of the woods. It also stated that she had to explore schools in my area.... She did neither. Then, yes it did say that school would be in her area.

I had a decision to make. A huge trial with time off work (couldn't afford) to deal with school .. or stomach the school piece (a lil' drive) and I get everything else I was asking since the beginning. I chose not to battle over the school ... still not sure if Links is correct and I made a huge mistake ... I do know I have my child 50/50 and the tornado I called life relaxed a bit. All I thought about was FLR's, CLRA's, exhibits, etc. I have a life to live.

Funny thing about the trial. I was oh-so ready .. I had 3 stacked binders with caselaw, primary parent items, parenting plans, etc. I even spent 3 months on my opening statement...which I felt was very good. But still .. I chose to avoid the war and enjoy my 50/50.

Am I stuck in this consent order forever? I think we all know I'm not if there are significant material changes in circumstances. I wouldn't pursue any court dates until that happened and I was completely confident that they were significant enough to warrant a variation in the order.

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I have a quick question unrelated to the above material.

The order states that ex and I are to share all child tax credits, etc every other year. I'm even years .. so this year. I filled out all the paperwork and just received their response stating this:

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We determined that you are not eligible for D4 since you do not meet the residency requirements
What does this mean? There's an order stating that I get it .. which of course I included in the package with the application. Since I'm paying all extra curricular's, full CS, etc and have 50/50 .. why/how could they deny me and ignore the order?

Anyone that could shed some info on that would be greatly appreciated.
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You didn't have 50/50 in 2015. And 2015 is her year.

Child tax credits are based on the previous year's taxes. When you file 2015, you receive benefits from July 2016 to July 2017 based on that income.

Based on your "even" years, you claim D4 on 2016 taxes and receive benefits next July 2017 based on that income.
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