I have been in a common law relationship with my partner for two years. He has been separated from his ex for 3.5 years. He is going through a divorce battle with his ex that seems as though it will never end.
I got sick this past year and had major surgery. I do not work currently or for the past year due to ill health. I also recently found out that I have a heart condition and I am due to see a specialist in a couple of weeks.
My partner and I live as husband and wife. We have joint bank accounts and we share a vehicle. We want to be married and we hope to have children together as soon as we find out how serious my condition is and as soon as his divorce is finally over with.
We are concerned because his ex is seeking spousal support. He is currently paying his child support according to what his lawyer told him he has to.
However, he is also supporting me as well. We have no choice right now as I simply cannot work. We are concerned because his ex is also seeking SS and if she were to get that he could lose about 50% of his income. This includes the combination of SS and CS.
Basically this would leave us with about 23 thousand per year to live on. We have no benefits either.
He is a very wonderful man. He works hard and takes care of us very well. He loves his children and wants to support them, and he does this without hesitation. However he is concerned because he realizes that he cannot support us, and his ex.
I guess our question is, if he is in a relationship with me that is clearly of permanence, and I am too sick to work, then would his ex still get the same SS as if I didn't exist? We understand the theory of "first family first" but how is someone supposed to support their new family if the "first" family has taken all their financial resources? I do not mean Child Support either, just spousal support.
I am very worried. So is he. We just want to move on with life and be happy but we know that we will have a very rough life if we have to live on $23,000 per year. Especially with my health being poor right now. We have even talked about not ever having children together because we couldn't afford it, even though we very much desire to have a child together. We love each other very much. We have a beautiful and caring relationship and I tresure this man dearly. We are scared and confused at this point and we don't know what to expect.
This is a very nice forum and I hope it can help us with some of our concerns. Thank You.
Everest
I got sick this past year and had major surgery. I do not work currently or for the past year due to ill health. I also recently found out that I have a heart condition and I am due to see a specialist in a couple of weeks.
My partner and I live as husband and wife. We have joint bank accounts and we share a vehicle. We want to be married and we hope to have children together as soon as we find out how serious my condition is and as soon as his divorce is finally over with.
We are concerned because his ex is seeking spousal support. He is currently paying his child support according to what his lawyer told him he has to.
However, he is also supporting me as well. We have no choice right now as I simply cannot work. We are concerned because his ex is also seeking SS and if she were to get that he could lose about 50% of his income. This includes the combination of SS and CS.
Basically this would leave us with about 23 thousand per year to live on. We have no benefits either.
He is a very wonderful man. He works hard and takes care of us very well. He loves his children and wants to support them, and he does this without hesitation. However he is concerned because he realizes that he cannot support us, and his ex.
I guess our question is, if he is in a relationship with me that is clearly of permanence, and I am too sick to work, then would his ex still get the same SS as if I didn't exist? We understand the theory of "first family first" but how is someone supposed to support their new family if the "first" family has taken all their financial resources? I do not mean Child Support either, just spousal support.
I am very worried. So is he. We just want to move on with life and be happy but we know that we will have a very rough life if we have to live on $23,000 per year. Especially with my health being poor right now. We have even talked about not ever having children together because we couldn't afford it, even though we very much desire to have a child together. We love each other very much. We have a beautiful and caring relationship and I tresure this man dearly. We are scared and confused at this point and we don't know what to expect.
This is a very nice forum and I hope it can help us with some of our concerns. Thank You.
Everest
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