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Old 11-27-2019, 12:08 PM
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And if your ex is steadfast that you should not get 50/50, they will just stick to their guns regardless of the outcome.
His ex makes more than he does. If she agrees to 50/50 she has to pay child support. She is not going to accept 50/50.

Mediation is useless for these two.
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Old 11-28-2019, 11:34 AM
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@iona6656 - she perceives the way I speak as anger and raising my voice. I grew up in a loud house and sometimes that is what works although it is not yelling. I did used to get angry but when I went to counselling my person identified that anger was my default reaction for what I was really feeling. Ever since this was brought to my attention I have been able to better reflect the emotion I am feeling at the time. My kids have noticed a significant improvement.
What caused you to go to counselling? what was the instigating event?

How long have you been in counselling? what type? Anger management?

Have you ever been charged with anything? were you required to take PARS?

Has anyone outside your wife and children witnessed the "raising" of your voice?
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Old 11-28-2019, 11:35 AM
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His ex makes more than he does. If she agrees to 50/50 she has to pay child support. She is not going to accept 50/50.

Mediation is useless for these two.
If she makes significantly more- and has a support system so that she doesn't have to pay housing/mortgage expenses.... She can- and most likely will try to out litigate him.
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Old 11-28-2019, 11:45 AM
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What caused you to go to counselling? what was the instigating event?

How long have you been in counselling? what type? Anger management?

4 months more general counselling. I initially sought help for the anger and now that it is WAY better I am seeing the same person to help getting over the affair she had and dealing with the separation

Have you ever been charged with anything? were you required to take PARS?

Never been charges and I don't know what PARS is

Has anyone outside your wife and children witnessed the "raising" of your voice?
She claims that strangers have approached her and when I asked she only gave 1 vague account.
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Old 11-28-2019, 11:49 AM
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If she makes significantly more- and has a support system so that she doesn't have to pay housing/mortgage expenses.... She can- and most likely will try to out litigate him.
- I do have a support system so that if I do run out of money the kids and I will have accommodations

- I just don't see why this process needs to drag on? I am an excellent father to my children. Would I like to eventually find another partner YES but is that time now NO - my new little family will need to settle into our new normal.
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Old 11-28-2019, 12:24 PM
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- I just don't see why this process needs to drag on?.

Because thats how the courts work. Which is why others have said get your motion filed. Get in front of a judge as soon as possible to get the kids with you equal time. Then you can battle out over the agreement. As long as she is forced to stop dictating the time you get the better off you are.
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Old 11-28-2019, 12:34 PM
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Because thats how the courts work. Which is why others have said get your motion filed. Get in front of a judge as soon as possible to get the kids with you equal time. Then you can battle out over the agreement. As long as she is forced to stop dictating the time you get the better off you are.
- I don't know if this matters right now but we are still living in the same house and keeping the same arrangements.

- Neither of us has plans to move out

- If she did decide to move and take the kids what happens? Can she legally do this given no one is in danger. I don't expect this to happen but if it does I will definitely need to file ASAP.
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Old 11-28-2019, 12:36 PM
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She claims that strangers have approached her and when I asked she only gave 1 vague account.
is that a "no" to all the other questions I posed?

Do you guys fight in front of the kids?
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Old 11-28-2019, 12:44 PM
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Never been charged and we are careful to move to another room or wait until the kids are asleep before talking.

People keep asking if the kids know something is going on and we both say NO. As far as the kids are concerned everything is great!
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Old 11-28-2019, 12:54 PM
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Whoops, I mixed you up with another poster. Ignore my get the kids back comment.

The process does take a while though.
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