Hello all, quick question as I am extremely frustrated. This may be more of a rant and I am sorry.
Quick background. Daughter is 12-almost 13 years old. Ex and I separated when she was 1.5 years old.
Daughter lived with ex until she was 10 years old. Environment was terrible, drug abuse, constant moving, witnessing of very bad spousal abuse and weapons in the home. After an emergency motion I finally got custody switched, it had been years in the making.
Ex left that guy, immediately with someone else. Moved closer to her parents and has appeared to be clean for a bit.
2 years of scattered access between our daughter and her mom, no child support or scheduled access. Finally have a court order for access, which is 1 weekend and 1 saturday day visit a month. D12 must sleep at her maternal grandparents but can spend day with mom.
Order for childsupport which is less than table amount, and for section 7 expenses which is also less than table amount.
So far 2 months have passed, no child support, and unwilling to pay section 7 expenses.
Every time our daughter goes to her moms, her mom takes her on a shopping spree. The shopping is the only bonding they do, so our daughter loves it.
Last weekend, our daughters mom got her a new pair of winter boots which cost $190, and a pair of spring boots which were $160. The boots she had gotten her in the fall were falling apart, but we figured its mid march, we can go find her cheap ones to finish the season. My wife and I are quite frugal, in fall I would consider buying her a good pair, but in spring there is no point.
She also got her a bunch of other clothing, some of which do not meet the schools dress code. Her mom buys her so many clothes that she literally has to donate clothing that she has never worn, because she has no room at all for new stuff.
Our daughter also does not follow her toileting schedule at her moms, or take her fiber which the Dr said she needs. We have just started to get her accidents under control and now we are going right back. So frustrated. I give my ex more parenting time than is court ordered, and bend over backwards to be a good co-parent. Yet she keeps trying to alienate our daughter from me.
How bad does it look when you do not pay child support or section 7 expenses, but continue to buy a child things?
Our daughter suffers from alot of trauma in the past, so she goes to a trauma therapist, and is going to a psychiatrist as well. Her mom thinks that now that she is "clean" that she is mom of the year but fails to see any of the damage she has done to our daughter in those years.
Ok, rant over. Really only looking for advice on the buying of stuff and not paying child support.
Thank you
Quick background. Daughter is 12-almost 13 years old. Ex and I separated when she was 1.5 years old.
Daughter lived with ex until she was 10 years old. Environment was terrible, drug abuse, constant moving, witnessing of very bad spousal abuse and weapons in the home. After an emergency motion I finally got custody switched, it had been years in the making.
Ex left that guy, immediately with someone else. Moved closer to her parents and has appeared to be clean for a bit.
2 years of scattered access between our daughter and her mom, no child support or scheduled access. Finally have a court order for access, which is 1 weekend and 1 saturday day visit a month. D12 must sleep at her maternal grandparents but can spend day with mom.
Order for childsupport which is less than table amount, and for section 7 expenses which is also less than table amount.
So far 2 months have passed, no child support, and unwilling to pay section 7 expenses.
Every time our daughter goes to her moms, her mom takes her on a shopping spree. The shopping is the only bonding they do, so our daughter loves it.
Last weekend, our daughters mom got her a new pair of winter boots which cost $190, and a pair of spring boots which were $160. The boots she had gotten her in the fall were falling apart, but we figured its mid march, we can go find her cheap ones to finish the season. My wife and I are quite frugal, in fall I would consider buying her a good pair, but in spring there is no point.
She also got her a bunch of other clothing, some of which do not meet the schools dress code. Her mom buys her so many clothes that she literally has to donate clothing that she has never worn, because she has no room at all for new stuff.
Our daughter also does not follow her toileting schedule at her moms, or take her fiber which the Dr said she needs. We have just started to get her accidents under control and now we are going right back. So frustrated. I give my ex more parenting time than is court ordered, and bend over backwards to be a good co-parent. Yet she keeps trying to alienate our daughter from me.
How bad does it look when you do not pay child support or section 7 expenses, but continue to buy a child things?
Our daughter suffers from alot of trauma in the past, so she goes to a trauma therapist, and is going to a psychiatrist as well. Her mom thinks that now that she is "clean" that she is mom of the year but fails to see any of the damage she has done to our daughter in those years.
Ok, rant over. Really only looking for advice on the buying of stuff and not paying child support.
Thank you
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