A little history:
The child has resided with me since birth and dad has been in supervised access.
Child custody/access
3 case conferences, 1st, judge suggests supervised access, 2nd more supervised access, hours increased, 3rd judge wants supervised access at centre to transition into supervised access into the community.
Parties agreed on Minutes of Settlement to create a community access schedule – that was to be supervised by a family member. My lawyer and I create the schedule with all kinds of locations and choices and requests for input. None forthcoming, but ex finally agrees to whatever we decide. We make a schedule (short, frequent visits) and begin. Since ex is not comfortable with any of my family members supervising and his side doesn’t step up, the onus fell on me, the mom. I agreed to this so that our child could really get more time with dad (short, very frequent visits) the other part of the agreement was to commence family counseling in conjunction with the community access. I was very excited and hopeful and the ex was charming for the first week, until I rejected his suggestion to “get-back-together” with him.
Ex backed out of the counseling, not even one session. But I kept up my end and adhered to the access schedule. Both my lawyer and I tried to encourage the counseling but ex has now refused altogether.
Ex is not showing up at the access locations and; I have no way to prove it;
Since his lawyer advised him not to sign attendance sheets which were to be signed and dated by both parties to show that access was taking place.
I bring our child to the access location and we sit for an hour and wait for dad to show up, rinse, and repeat, day after day. This has been going on for close to three weeks.
Ex’s lawyer wants ex to commence home access and his bringing forth a motion to have access “expanded” but the wording is so ambiguous I simply don’t understand if he wants to continue the community access, which he is not attending, and home access which he specifies as, 2 hours twice a week at his house, to increase to four hours twice a week after 30 days. And to expand after that, with no further details.
I am now required to show up for community access; regardless if dad shows up or not and also agree to the extra access but have no idea of days, times or anything else.
Ex is on a permanent disability for a psychiatric illness, and I’m attending college, so he has a lot more of an open calendar than I do.
I am usually very good at planning and organizing, but in this situation, I am at a loss.
Any suggestions?
The child has resided with me since birth and dad has been in supervised access.
Child custody/access
3 case conferences, 1st, judge suggests supervised access, 2nd more supervised access, hours increased, 3rd judge wants supervised access at centre to transition into supervised access into the community.
Parties agreed on Minutes of Settlement to create a community access schedule – that was to be supervised by a family member. My lawyer and I create the schedule with all kinds of locations and choices and requests for input. None forthcoming, but ex finally agrees to whatever we decide. We make a schedule (short, frequent visits) and begin. Since ex is not comfortable with any of my family members supervising and his side doesn’t step up, the onus fell on me, the mom. I agreed to this so that our child could really get more time with dad (short, very frequent visits) the other part of the agreement was to commence family counseling in conjunction with the community access. I was very excited and hopeful and the ex was charming for the first week, until I rejected his suggestion to “get-back-together” with him.
Ex backed out of the counseling, not even one session. But I kept up my end and adhered to the access schedule. Both my lawyer and I tried to encourage the counseling but ex has now refused altogether.
Ex is not showing up at the access locations and; I have no way to prove it;
Since his lawyer advised him not to sign attendance sheets which were to be signed and dated by both parties to show that access was taking place.
I bring our child to the access location and we sit for an hour and wait for dad to show up, rinse, and repeat, day after day. This has been going on for close to three weeks.
Ex’s lawyer wants ex to commence home access and his bringing forth a motion to have access “expanded” but the wording is so ambiguous I simply don’t understand if he wants to continue the community access, which he is not attending, and home access which he specifies as, 2 hours twice a week at his house, to increase to four hours twice a week after 30 days. And to expand after that, with no further details.
I am now required to show up for community access; regardless if dad shows up or not and also agree to the extra access but have no idea of days, times or anything else.
Ex is on a permanent disability for a psychiatric illness, and I’m attending college, so he has a lot more of an open calendar than I do.
I am usually very good at planning and organizing, but in this situation, I am at a loss.
Any suggestions?
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