We have been seperated for about 18 months now. What started out as an amicable separation where we used to work together for the best interest of the children has turned into some sort of war around the children.
As the father of 3 ages 15, 9 and 7, not only have I been through some hurtful times which required support from sites but have had to adjust to a new reality where my children live 2 hours away within an environment not very conducive, as well as dealing with an ex and a boyfriend who seem to have lost all touch on respect and consideration.
I can no longer make any comments about the children without insults. I am supposed to tolerate verbal abuse from her boyfriend without saying anything back as if I do, it comes with insults. Even though we have no written agreement in place, I have always paid child support since Feb of last year when she came up with the brilliant move to Pembroke. Apparently, I am a no good father who had destroyed the family by not stopping infidelity in its tracks nor stopping her current boyfriend from meddling into an affair, which he clearly has no business.
I am holding firm but would be honest to have rather had an amicable separation. Dealing with these 2 now consume a good part of my mental strength, testing my ideals and virtues. My question to others is how I navigate these difficult times? My lawyer is aware of the current circumstances even though I do not send her every email or textual poison I get from this woman. If I did, I would go bankrupt. My lawyer, however, has requested her boyfriend stay in the car during kids drop off but I do not know if they will oblige.
Now, I have received reports that my son is starting to act up in school. This, I am attributing to a current environment which includes playing violent video games, a level of disrespect and loss of integrity and an encouragement of aggressive behavior towards others. I would state that this guy verbally assaulted me infront of the children during my last drop off session. What ever request I make to adjust the children pickup schedule is met with violent opposition and since I am not allowed to pick up the children from the school without parental consent, I am left at her whims.
My questions:
1. What mechanism are there in place to foster a neutral child drop/off and pickup location outside of the lawyer's office?
2. What mechanism are there in place to ensure her boyfriend stays out of my business especially when I have to drop off or pick up the kids?
3. What mechanism are there in place to foster amicability and how do I get the boyfriend out of my business?
Thanks in advance.
As the father of 3 ages 15, 9 and 7, not only have I been through some hurtful times which required support from sites but have had to adjust to a new reality where my children live 2 hours away within an environment not very conducive, as well as dealing with an ex and a boyfriend who seem to have lost all touch on respect and consideration.
I can no longer make any comments about the children without insults. I am supposed to tolerate verbal abuse from her boyfriend without saying anything back as if I do, it comes with insults. Even though we have no written agreement in place, I have always paid child support since Feb of last year when she came up with the brilliant move to Pembroke. Apparently, I am a no good father who had destroyed the family by not stopping infidelity in its tracks nor stopping her current boyfriend from meddling into an affair, which he clearly has no business.
I am holding firm but would be honest to have rather had an amicable separation. Dealing with these 2 now consume a good part of my mental strength, testing my ideals and virtues. My question to others is how I navigate these difficult times? My lawyer is aware of the current circumstances even though I do not send her every email or textual poison I get from this woman. If I did, I would go bankrupt. My lawyer, however, has requested her boyfriend stay in the car during kids drop off but I do not know if they will oblige.
Now, I have received reports that my son is starting to act up in school. This, I am attributing to a current environment which includes playing violent video games, a level of disrespect and loss of integrity and an encouragement of aggressive behavior towards others. I would state that this guy verbally assaulted me infront of the children during my last drop off session. What ever request I make to adjust the children pickup schedule is met with violent opposition and since I am not allowed to pick up the children from the school without parental consent, I am left at her whims.
My questions:
1. What mechanism are there in place to foster a neutral child drop/off and pickup location outside of the lawyer's office?
2. What mechanism are there in place to ensure her boyfriend stays out of my business especially when I have to drop off or pick up the kids?
3. What mechanism are there in place to foster amicability and how do I get the boyfriend out of my business?
Thanks in advance.
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