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Old 01-20-2011, 10:34 PM
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On the grounds that you're his father and unless they can provide reason why you shouldn't have 50-50 custody, that's what you want and expect.
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lol, first hardship, now 50-50 custody ... Whats the material change again?
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Old 01-21-2011, 01:05 PM
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With regard to childcare, if your parents are willing to provide for less $$, that is grounds to vary the court order. However, as sole custodian, your ex has the right to choose whichever childcare she feels best for your child. Suck it up, or fight it (and it'd be a long one)...your odds are about 30% for a win...
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I feel why should i be penalized financially and emotionally in this divorce. I love my son dearly and I am capable of unbringing him alone. Ever since he was born i give him bath, even until now, i take him to park to play or to swim in community centre, to see the doctors when he is not well or for immunization, i cut his hair, i do have a bonding with him and i want to strengthen my bonding with him. My ex is the one who was busy with her boy friend and she wants to penalize me financially and emotionally when she is the main culprit in this marriage breakdown. She walked out with my son to stay with her parents, she took our one year old brand new car and left me with 8 years old car and alienating the son to torture me financially and emotionally.
I am feeling very stressed and I hope she will be fair in our settlement for the best interest of our child. The child have a father and a mother so he is to receive love and care from both, unfortunately not under the same roof.
Am I a good superdaddy?
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Old 01-21-2011, 02:15 PM
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You will be when you can say all of that without the bitterness over the car and the financial and emotional strain...it takes time...hopefully the anger does not last, for that is the worst thing you can do to your son!!
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Is the UCCB the $100.00 a mth for children under 6??
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Old 01-27-2011, 03:00 PM
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Ok thank you, and yes, I do recieve that for one of the three girls.
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She lives with her parents and her mom babysits my son. I offered her to let my mother look after my son without any charges just like the way my mother used to help out when my son was born and she was the one who used to look after him while we go to work.
In other words, it is in the best interest of the child to spend equal time but she refuses to let me see him except on tuesday and every other weekends. On what ground can I get shared custody?

Consider her living with her parents as punishment
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With what you're paying it amounts to $11100/year leaving you $48,900 to live on. If you can't live on that on your own, how do you expect her to do it with a child? Her expenses would be a lot more considering she has custody of the child and incurs the expenses related to maintaining a home for the child.

Perhaps instead of a reduction in child support you might review the expenses associated with your lifestyle and look for ways to cut back there, instead of on your child's.
Here is what I will take issue with on this stance, Blink....

60K...means about 44K makes it home after taxes...subtract 11K from that, and it is now 33K...don't base your numbers for survival on pre-tax rates!

Example: they each make 60K...he nets 33K after child support. She nets 55K, minus the childcare that she has to pay prior to the rebate earned (up to 7K in ontario)...now, she is supporting a child on 22K more than he is...damn expensive child!

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