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Old 09-07-2016, 08:11 AM
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No I'm home for the 6 off.
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Makes sense now, thanks very much for the info!

Ideally I want 50/50 both but there is a chance my shift changes to more of an 8/6 rotation soon.

No matter what I want joint on decision making.
CHILDREN FIRST!

job second.

There are child care providers that you can hire to retain 50-50. People who toss their children around because of their shifts really need to realize that they don't have to be with their children 24x7 when they reside with them. Also, they need to realize that the other parent is on the hook for the portion of child care too.

Never give up time with your children to the other parent because of "shift work".
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Old 09-07-2016, 10:16 AM
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No I'm home for the 6 off.
There should be no reason as to why you shouldn't have those 6 days then.

It should be an issue of cost analyst at this point - is it worth going to trial for the extra 10% time? I would say even an extra 5 minutes of time with your child is worth going to trial for.

If you're going to trial to get that extra day (where the child would likely be in daycare) - if other parent is available then you're just increasing your daycare costs - but if this leaves this time open to you to have in case you are taking a day off or if that day falls on a statutory holiday then that can be a good thing to have.
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Old 09-07-2016, 11:42 AM
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1. I prefer 50/50 because 60/40 just seems like a number to escape full CS and it is 1% away from that which can be breached by things of life.
To clarify, what Links means is that if you are sick for two days of your custody, you drop to 39.9% or whatever, and then you pay full support. Your expenses will be the same, but your child support will skyrocket.

It is almost impossible to pay table support and provide for your children. 60/40 is one bad cold away from losing your kids.

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2. I think it more firmly cements in everybody's minds you are both equal parents.
Also important. At 60/40, she is the real parent, and you are the wallet.

And as others have said. Kids first, job second. Find daycare.
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Old 09-08-2016, 08:02 PM
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Great comment, do you have examples from CANLII that someone was able to still retain get 50/50.

The scenarios I see where parents lose is Parent A does shift work and during that time, Parent B is available to take child. How do you counter argue against the fact that child could be with parent instead of child care provider?

Nevermind, I found it! In this case, the child care provider was parent A's father and new girlfriend.

http://www.canlii.org/en/sk/skca/doc...&resultIndex=1



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CHILDREN FIRST!

job second.

There are child care providers that you can hire to retain 50-50. People who toss their children around because of their shifts really need to realize that they don't have to be with their children 24x7 when they reside with them. Also, they need to realize that the other parent is on the hook for the portion of child care too.

Never give up time with your children to the other parent because of "shift work".

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Old 09-08-2016, 11:53 PM
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Great comment, do you have examples from CANLII that someone was able to still retain get 50/50.

The scenarios I see where parents lose is Parent A does shift work and during that time, Parent B is available to take child. How do you counter argue against the fact that child could be with parent instead of child care provider?

Nevermind, I found it! In this case, the child care provider was parent A's father and new girlfriend.

http://www.canlii.org/en/sk/skca/doc...&resultIndex=1


Love the case. Thanks. I'll add it to my list.


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