My 8yo son has just began exhibiting HAP/PAS-like symptoms in the past week while at his mother's place. Extreme anger and hate towards me on the phone, refusing to come to my place this coming weekend. (We have week about access and joint custody in a temporary order.)
The behaviour is new and completely out of the blue. Last week he was with me, and was a complete joy. His usual self, and had a great week in school.
His words are completely heartbreaking, and I know my ex is considering not bringing him to me on Sunday. From everything I've read so far, allowing him to make this choice is the worst possible option. Discipline must be upheld, and he should hear a consistent message from both of us.
We do have initial appointments with a therapist lined up, so hopefully we can nip this in the bud before it gets too far out of control.
Would someone be available for a short chat about this? I'm still reading as much as I can. I could use an ear and an experienced parent, as I'm completely overwhelmed right now. I'm not sure what to expect if/when he is brought to my place this weekend.
Any number of ways to communicate, whatever you're comfortable with. From email to phone.
Much appreciated
Some interesting articles I've come across so far:
The Dangers of Choice in Alienation/Splitting Reactions
Parental Alienation Treatment
The behaviour is new and completely out of the blue. Last week he was with me, and was a complete joy. His usual self, and had a great week in school.
His words are completely heartbreaking, and I know my ex is considering not bringing him to me on Sunday. From everything I've read so far, allowing him to make this choice is the worst possible option. Discipline must be upheld, and he should hear a consistent message from both of us.
We do have initial appointments with a therapist lined up, so hopefully we can nip this in the bud before it gets too far out of control.
Would someone be available for a short chat about this? I'm still reading as much as I can. I could use an ear and an experienced parent, as I'm completely overwhelmed right now. I'm not sure what to expect if/when he is brought to my place this weekend.
Any number of ways to communicate, whatever you're comfortable with. From email to phone.
Much appreciated
Some interesting articles I've come across so far:
The Dangers of Choice in Alienation/Splitting Reactions
Parental Alienation Treatment
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