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  • #16
    Originally posted by Janus View Post
    There are two courses of action:

    A - get the vaccine
    B - do not get the vaccine

    If the parents do not agree, there is no reason for it to default to option "B".

    You give notice, and let the other parent try and stop you if they want. Spoiler: They will not be able to stop you.
    To summarize my view on what Janus is saying:
    This would be a violation of the court order but that will be overlooked.
    They other parent can be told "file a motion with the court if you disagree".

    Courts will be OK with it as long as the other parent gives timely notification.

    How many days notification?

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    • #17
      Originally posted by pinkHouses View Post
      To summarize my view on what Janus is saying:
      Not sure if this was done in good faith or not

      This would be a violation of the court order
      Unless the court order says "thou shalt not vaccinate thy children" I doubt any court order is being violated.

      but that will be overlooked.
      What possible consequences would or could a court impose for vaccinating your child? It will absolutely be overlooked. Unless there is a specific court order that is being violated, contempt is off the table... which leaves what exactly?

      The other parent can be told "file a motion with the court if you disagree".
      That is generally how things work. You argue, and potentially come to an agreement. If you cannot come to an agreement, the party that is looking to stop an action has to take the lead. If I decide to move and I have custody of the kids, I provide notice and my ex can try and stop me if she wants.

      It is only wrong if I don't provide notice.

      Courts will be OK with it as long as the other parent gives timely notification.
      The court can always rule against you, but generally speaking if you provide timely notification you won't get in trouble, beyond losing the motion and having to pay costs. That is not vaccine specific though.

      In this particular case though, I am saying that if the antivax parent brings a motion, they will lose, which means that, yes, the court will be "ok with it".

      How many days notification?
      The more the merrier, you don't want to make it look like you were trying to pull a fast one. I was suggesting one month, but to be honest I pulled that number out of thin air. Perhaps there is an actual timing guideline?

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      • #18
        If the parties have joint custody (decisions are made together) and do not agree on a medical procedure or medication AND one has that medical item done then yes, that is a violation of the court order. Maybe it weighs against the violating parent.

        Most of the cases I saw were the parent wanting vaccination filing a motion against the other one, not vice versa.

        I suppose that the vaccination can be booked and the other parent can be given the ability and option to cancel the vaccination; if they do not then everything is good to go. If they do then court.

        Yes, I was posting that in good faith and trying to get a good legal sense.

        This type of thing applies to a lot of situations so it is good to know what the proper way to proceed is. I still am unclear and judges have a lot of leeway.

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        • #19
          Originally posted by Brampton33 View Post
          Agree 100% with PinkHouses. There is a proper process to follow if you have joint custody. This relates to a medical decision and must be jointly agreed upon. Most court orders have a Dispute Resolution clause outlining how to proceed where there is disagreement.
          I disagree. Janus is right. Anyone reading yours and other's comments should disregard. Proceed with vaccination. The Court will not go against public health. Any parent going against public health will lose. There is no risk to anything to have your child vaccinated.

          Any court order punishing a parent who follows public health guidance that is punished for following it would be a signal and used by the anti-vax movement in a negative fashion. So no court will order anything against them self. Remember, the court is government... Just a different wing. Rarely do they order against each other. No would they issue anything that would impact public health.

          Flu shots have been the test case for this... Search CanLII... Find me an order where a parent has any impact from getting their child a flu shot...

          Janus is correct and providing the best advice here in my opinion.

          In the midst of a pandemic, following government guidance and doing something safe for the children that is recommended by the government... Is doing the right thing. You can bypass "Start" and get children vaccinated. The anti-vax parent can, like Janus recommended, bring a motion after the fact or even prior when notified... The pro-vax parent will win and get their full costs paid.

          https://www.canlii.org/en/on/onsc/do...0onsc3971.html

          [1] COVID-19 has instantly made most of our “He Said/She Said” disputes sound pretty petty.

          [2] We’re still in the midst of an existential crisis. Medically. Economically. Socially.

          [3] But rather than brace together against the common enemy, parents are pounding on the family court door, begging us to open up so they can get a few more kicks in – as if a judge has the power to wake anyone from this pandemic nightmare.

          [4] Business as Usual? Gone.

          [5] Nonsense as Usual? Here to stay.
          Feel free to be "that" parent that is Brampton33 and others saying you shouldn't get your child vaccinated and that the decision is "joint". Have fun explaining away that paragraph from case law with 24 citing's.

          Not going to the court and against the door to get your child vaccinated because the other parent is anti-vax is nonsense. Let the anti-vax parent try and get their kicks in... they will fail horribly and in the pro-vax parent's favour.

          GET YOUR CHILD VACCINATED!

          Good Luck!
          Tayken
          Last edited by Tayken; 12-31-2021, 11:58 AM.

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          • #20
            Having gone through the process, I would agree to just go get your child vaccinated. During the mediation, urgent motion, decision process- the anti-vax parent can do some crazy things- such as influence the child to the "dangers" of the vaccination, thus creating secondary issues regarding trust, choosing sides and placing the kids in the middle. Even 7/8 year old kids can become afraid of the vaccine if the right pressure is placed on the child. COVID vaccination is a black and white issue and unfortunately its not really something that is successfully mediated unless there are bargaining chips involved from either side.

            I am dealing with significant parental alienation as the children believe the vaccination will kill them or have considerable impacts on their hearts. This is fed to the children through the kids meeting with a quack BC doctor and you tube videos from the other parent.

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            • #21
              Hey. I am playing both sides of the fence here trying to find the best balance and also considering other situations, not just vaccines.

              To be clear because I know someone out there is simply going to be all "I can do what I want and don't need to tell the ex anything" when it comes to vaccines.

              No parent should simply decide "I am going to get my child vaccinated" without consulting with the other parent first. I think I have most scenarios down:

              Situation 1 (does not apply to COVID).
              Parent 1: I got our kid vaccinated for X today.
              Parent 2: You did not consult me on which version of the vaccine they should get I should have been part of that decision.

              Situation 2.
              Parent 1: I booked our kid to get a vaccination.
              Parent 2: We should talk about this as there might be an issue with this.
              Parent 1: Screw you and your concerns, I got them vaccinated today.
              Parent 2: You forgot our kid had a diagnosis for myocarditis when they were a baby you idiot. There is a reason the court order says we are supposed to consult each other on medical items and give notice for appointments.

              Parent 1: Well our kid is still alive so I was right to get them vaccinated.
              Parent 2: Yeah, I do not think that is going to fly.

              Situation 3.
              Parent 1: I got our kid vaccinated today.
              Parent 2: It would have been appropriate for you to get a medical assessment first because our child has a litany of issues that could potentially cause an issue. The pediatrician said to see them first.
              Parent 1: I don't care about our kids pediatrician's opinion. I did what I wanted to do.
              Parent 2: I don't think that is going to fly.

              Situation 4.
              Parent 1: I got our kid vaccinated for X tonight, sorry for the late notice.
              Parent 2: I also got our kid vaccinated for X this morning, sorry I for the late notice.
              Parent 1 and 2: We are both f*cking idiots.

              Situation 5:
              Parent 1: I got our kid vaccinated for X today.
              Parent 2: I got our kid vaccinated for Y last week and those different vaccinations are supposed to be 4 weeks apart.
              Parent 1 and 2: We are f*cking idiots.

              Just work together with the ex. It is better for the kid.

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              • #22
                Some random case law, doesn't necessarily help my viewpoint

                https://canlii.ca/t/jlbcg

                [29]....In a separated family, it is incumbent on separated parents to have each other’s consent before such parenting decisions are made, especially when, in this case, Ms. Khalil is the authorized decision-maker, a role that Mr. Hasan subverted when he unilaterally arranged for M. to receive her first vaccination shot in the face of Ms. Khalil’s lack of consent to same.

                [30] Mr. Hasan’s conduct since the Covid-19 pandemic, in swearing a false affidavit before the Court in April 2020, and in arranging for M. to receive her first vaccination shot without Ms. Khalil’s consent, demonstrates that he is unable, in my view, to place M.’s needs and best interests ahead of his own need to secure his own plans. This prioritizing of his own interests affects his ability to care for and meet M.’s needs, and his ability and willingness to communicate and cooperate with Ms. Khalil, on matters affecting M.
                So, non-custodial parent (or whatever the new term is, I always forget) got the vaccination. Court used that as a partial excuse to stop him from going on an international trip, but it is very possible he was not going to be allowed to go anyway.

                Vaccinating parent did not face any other consequences though.

                I still think I'm right, but I felt this case law was possibly relevant.

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                • #23
                  Ah the naivety of the “dispute resolution clause”. Note to litigants, it doesn’t always work and in cases where a child’s health and well being is at risk, dispute resolution is completely ineffective. If one parent refuses to get their kid vaccinated then the other parent should go and do it. A simple “please advise if you plan to get the children vaccinated otherwise I will take them during my parenting time” and then go. To me this is a no brainer. And leaning on a dispute resolution clause is not applicable in this situation.

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                  • #24
                    You are aware that the chance of death from covid for a healthy child is statistically 0% right? And that the safety data is limited?

                    It's right in the government document:

                    "The guiding consideration for COVID-19 pediatric vaccine recommendations should be whether vaccination is in children's best interests. Decisions regarding pediatric COVID-19 vaccination programs should not only evaluate the direct and indirect benefits and risks of vaccination in this age group, but also consider principles such as the precautionary principle, equity, trust, and proportionality. There are multiple and intersecting uncertainties at play, including those related to the impact of COVID-19 on children's health; the long-term effectiveness of vaccination in this age group; potential safety concerns (e.g., uncertainty around the risk of myocarditis and pericarditis); and the future progression of the pandemic, including the emergence of variants of concern. While it is not justified to vaccinate children only to benefit others, the indirect, population-level benefits of vaccination can also benefit children.

                    The overall safety and effectiveness data are limited for children. While it is justifiable to make recommendations based on available data for children 5-11 years of age, including following the dosing intervals associated with the clinical trial data, the precautionary principle also justifies taking action under conditions of scientific uncertainty to mitigate vaccine-related risks, including through active post-market surveillance. This includes using data available from other age groups and applying vaccination principles.

                    Generally, a vaccination program is justified if its anticipated benefits outweigh its potential risks. Children aged 5-11 years are unlikely to be deemed capable of consenting to vaccination, and decisions related to their vaccination will likely be made by parents or guardians. Given the short-term uncertainties surrounding pediatric vaccination at this time, children and their parents or guardians should be supported and respected in their decisions regarding COVID-19 vaccinations for the child, whatever decisions they make, and should not be stigmatised for accepting, or not accepting, the vaccination offer."

                    https://www.canada.ca/en/public-heal...years-age.html

                    It's pretty much an accepted fact that kids aren't at risk from covid, they're just at risk from the lockdown measures. The reason for vaccinating children is mainly to benefit society as a whole. I guess it depends on your view of the ethics of that and whether it's in their best interests on an individual level.

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                    • #25
                      Originally posted by mamabear1234 View Post
                      You are aware that the chance of death from covid for a healthy child is statistically 0% right? And that the safety data is limited?
                      Are you aware that the chance of death from the covid vaccine for a healthy child is statistically 0%, right? And that the data on covid infection is limited?

                      I'm just kidding, kids have actually died from covid, not a single kid has died from the vaccine.

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                      • #26
                        I remember our pediatrician. Your kids have zero to worry about from COVID, send them to school, don't worry about a thing. A couple of months later as the vaccine is available to them "get them vaccinated now" for their safety. Not the best source of info.

                        As far as kids are concerned, it isn't about the dying. It is about the damage. COVID can do it, so can the vaccine.
                        Doesn't matter, for now in Family Court you don't get to argue against any of the vaccines successfully. Maybe next year.

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                        • #27
                          Hi,
                          Sorry, I've been tuned out for the last few weeks because my daughter got COIVD on Christamas Eve, then the ex got it 4 days later, then my son got it last Monday. I am double vaxxed and was taking care of both kids while the ex was sick. I showed no symptoms until today and just tested positive. I've been in back to back quarantines for the last 2.5 weeks. (all this could have been avoided if the kids were vaccinated)

                          We have a joint custody and joint decision making in our separation agreement with a Dispute Resolution Clause that points to mediation if we cannot agree. It just seems a waste to go to mediation if you know the ex wont agree. To respect the Separation Agreement, it seems like I have to at least attempt mediation.

                          I spoke to the kids doctor and he definitely recommends the vaccine. He's willing to speak with the ex or do anything to help me get them vaccinated. Since the kids had COVID, he recommends to wait 3 months to get the vaccine because they have about 6 months of built up immunity from their original exposure.

                          I really like the idea of just getting them vaccinated, but worried about the future consequences and if it could be used against me in the future or if I would lose decision making rights.

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                          • #28
                            Wow..just wow. It could have all been avoided if the kids were just vaxed? You have indicated you are vaxed and are now testing positive? You do realize you still have to isolate? You can still catch and spread covid if you are vaxed. So not quite sure how you feel it could have been avoided? The majority of the cases in hospital are vaxed.

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                            • #29
                              Originally posted by gzy039 View Post
                              Wow..just wow. It could have all been avoided if the kids were just vaxed? You have indicated you are vaxed and are now testing positive? You do realize you still have to isolate? You can still catch and spread covid if you are vaxed. So not quite sure how you feel it could have been avoided? The majority of the cases in hospital are vaxed.

                              Ya you might want to check your data. Majority of cases in the hospital and ICU are unvaccinated. Not to mention those fully vaccinated in hospital and dying have co-morbidities like diabetes, heart conditions, lung disease, transplants etc.

                              More than likely the illness of the poster was the result of his immunity waning which experts have said will happen. All this extra effort was probably why he wasn’t able to get boosted. Not to mention they all would have had reduced illness impact if the kids and mom had been vaccinated.

                              Go read your copy of Druthers and adjust your tin hat.

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                              • #30
                                Originally posted by gzy039 View Post
                                Wow..just wow. It could have all been avoided if the kids were just vaxed? You have indicated you are vaxed and are now testing positive? You do realize you still have to isolate? You can still catch and spread covid if you are vaxed. So not quite sure how you feel it could have been avoided? The majority of the cases in hospital are vaxed.
                                There is a difference between could and would.
                                Your questions are not productive and you need to hit social media for a fix.

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