Originally posted by InterprovincialParents
View Post
There's a lot of history that may count against her:
- Was full-time @ Sears when we got married, was let go with a golden parachute when Sears fired all of their full-time staff
- Promised to work full time again as soon as the kids were in school full-time (there's no "I gave up my career to raise His kids" argument to be made)
- Refused to work throughout marriage. Got, and immediately quit several part-time jobs.
- Had several opportunities to work for Sears again throughout marriage (old friends were now store managers)
- Started, and quit, several home-based businesses - all of which I invested HEAVILY in (and she still has the embroidery machine, sewing machines, thousands of dollars worth of commercial cake decorating stuff, etc., etc.)
- refused to work after I left, said that she didn't have to work to support kids because I had to support them through CS (actually stated this, verbatim).
- After she made the statement above, I drove 3 hours to Trenton, drove her around to pick up job applications, made her fill them out, drove her around to drop them off. She got a callback from Toys R Us, and I drove her to initial interview. She got called back for a second interview and refused to go. I talked her into going and drove her to callback. She got the job, and then refused to show up to work on the first day. I found out, got her to call management back and beg for another chance, they gave her one more chance, and she started work. Got good reviews, was promised a promotion and full-time hours, and she immediately quit.
- When she stated her intent to move to SK and told me that my daughter had said that she would accompany her***, I said that I would allow it if Ex secured full-time employment and got a house (initial plan was to live with parents or in welfare housing, I refused). She told me that she had indeed already secured full-time employment at a new hotel/spa in SK (she was lying) and that Sears wanted her back.
- In separation agreement "pledged to seek permanent, full-time employment with a minimum annual income of $24K"
- Got one part time job ($10/hour, 20 hours) and quit it, got another part time job ($10/hour, 20 hours).
Soooooo, the history dating back to 1993 is consistent: broken promises to work, refusal to work, quitting work....
It's only been 15 months, though, not 2 years. Had she started working at Sears again, she'd be right back up there - I'm certain (was a departmental manager when she was let go in 1993).
Cheers!
Gary
*** my daughter (15 in Oct) has since stated that she was coerced into giving a "yes" and never had time to think about what she wanted to do.
Comment