If you're both flexible and reasonable, and you're willing to come out with an agreement in which you may not get everything you want, but you get something you can live with, collaborative divorce could be a good idea. If however one of you is not flexible and is willing to burn up time and money to get everything his or her way, the whole collaborative process can fail. Only you and your ex know whether you can be flexible enough.
Personally before you go to a collaborative lawyers download the separation agreement template here and give one to her.
Both create your own separation agreement and then sit down together and look at the differences. Then create a chart of the differences, you want, she wants with a third column for final decision/settlement.
That's what the lawyers do, so really do you need to pay them or can you do it between the two of you. It's up too you. If you have lots of differences then you know collaborative will not work.
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