Virginia Gilbert, MFT: What Therapists Don't Tell You About Divorcing A High-Conflict Personality
''While your gut reaction might be to defend yourself, you cannot reason with a terrorist. Anything you say can and will be used against you. To mitigate the chaos caused by a high-conflict personality, you must keep communication to a minimum."
It's only natural to want to settle things asap for the sake of our children and our own wellness - with the overwhelming need to 'fix' whatever hiders that goal. When that 'whatever' just happens to be our HC ex spouse - less is definitely better!
''While your gut reaction might be to defend yourself, you cannot reason with a terrorist. Anything you say can and will be used against you. To mitigate the chaos caused by a high-conflict personality, you must keep communication to a minimum."
It's only natural to want to settle things asap for the sake of our children and our own wellness - with the overwhelming need to 'fix' whatever hiders that goal. When that 'whatever' just happens to be our HC ex spouse - less is definitely better!
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