I suggest you stick with what you told Mom and let her pick up Kid. This solution is fair to both of you, it is reasonable, it has been communicated to her clearly and politely, and unless you have an order which specifically says that you do the driving, you are not in contempt of court. You can't be "in contempt of" a ruling that doesn't exist yet. Your solution is also consistent with past practice in which Mom took care of transport.
If you do bring Kid to Mom's tomorrow morning, after telling her that you expect her to pick Kid up, you'll be avoiding conflict on this one occasion but you'll be teaching Mom that what you say isn't to be taken seriously, she can ignore you and in the end you'll do what she wants anyway. I know it will be very stressful in the morning as you wait for Mom to show (or not), but I think you should hold to your plan. It's fair, reasonable, legal and backed by precedent.
Don't be freaked out by Mom going on about you withholding Kid and how sole custody to her is the only possible option. That's her framing of the situation but it is not objective truth. From what you've shared here, there is no reason why joint custody should not be awarded by court.
If you do bring Kid to Mom's tomorrow morning, after telling her that you expect her to pick Kid up, you'll be avoiding conflict on this one occasion but you'll be teaching Mom that what you say isn't to be taken seriously, she can ignore you and in the end you'll do what she wants anyway. I know it will be very stressful in the morning as you wait for Mom to show (or not), but I think you should hold to your plan. It's fair, reasonable, legal and backed by precedent.
Don't be freaked out by Mom going on about you withholding Kid and how sole custody to her is the only possible option. That's her framing of the situation but it is not objective truth. From what you've shared here, there is no reason why joint custody should not be awarded by court.
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