Hello,
I find myself debating about returning to court. I would like to hear your opinion to see if my position is reasonable . It's a long frustrating process and I only want to go through it if it's absolutely necessary.
We are parents of a 5.5 year old boy. Final consent order made when he was almost 2 . Join custody , 50/50 with a 2-2-3 schedule . Our court order mandates us to work with a parental coordinator who will have the power to make final decisions for us if we don't agree. A year and a half ago we hired a PC to help us choose the school our son would go to - mediation did not work so the PC arbitrated in my favor. Since then the dad does not want to sing any more agreements with any PC. If I want something - he tells me " I can bring a motion" . I did some research and his lack of collaboration and refusal to work with a PC represents a material change in circumstances to vary the final court order.
The 2-2-3 schedule is very tiring - those who used it know it. You don't have the kid the same days of the week and the kids move every 2/3days . I want to move to 2-2-5-5 so we could have him the same days of the week. Main reason - his extra curricular activities. My ex has unrealistic demands in order for him to take him he needs a dedicated parking space ( street parking is no good) it has to be late for him to do it 1h after work and ideally on his way home. I offered him to switch a year ago - his reply NO kid is too young. I asked again now - same reply too young and used well to the same schedule. So are we to wait until he is 18 to change the schedule?. I found lots of cases where 2-2-5-5 has been ordered for kids over 4. I would like our son to start 2-2-5-5 when he is six. Is it too much to return to court for the access schedule change ? we will continue to have same time share 50/50.
If we were to return to court I may as well raise the other issues. Summer - Ex is refusing to sign up the child to summer camps unless they are in his neighborhood. He does not care - the kid stays with his parents who are retired. I was able to care for him during my time last year since I was off work but I need to go back to work full time. Summer camps are fun and educational ! Our current order does not talk about summer care except for vacation since the child was in daycare when we signed it.
Finally if I am to return to court I want to ask for the final decision making authority . I know it's a long shot but I am willing to work with a PC - he is not. If there is no signed PC contract then we have no way to resolve our differences, but to return to court which is long, tiring and expensive. Did anyone have experience having that caveat put into their order ?
Thank you. Your honest opinion is welcome.
I find myself debating about returning to court. I would like to hear your opinion to see if my position is reasonable . It's a long frustrating process and I only want to go through it if it's absolutely necessary.
We are parents of a 5.5 year old boy. Final consent order made when he was almost 2 . Join custody , 50/50 with a 2-2-3 schedule . Our court order mandates us to work with a parental coordinator who will have the power to make final decisions for us if we don't agree. A year and a half ago we hired a PC to help us choose the school our son would go to - mediation did not work so the PC arbitrated in my favor. Since then the dad does not want to sing any more agreements with any PC. If I want something - he tells me " I can bring a motion" . I did some research and his lack of collaboration and refusal to work with a PC represents a material change in circumstances to vary the final court order.
The 2-2-3 schedule is very tiring - those who used it know it. You don't have the kid the same days of the week and the kids move every 2/3days . I want to move to 2-2-5-5 so we could have him the same days of the week. Main reason - his extra curricular activities. My ex has unrealistic demands in order for him to take him he needs a dedicated parking space ( street parking is no good) it has to be late for him to do it 1h after work and ideally on his way home. I offered him to switch a year ago - his reply NO kid is too young. I asked again now - same reply too young and used well to the same schedule. So are we to wait until he is 18 to change the schedule?. I found lots of cases where 2-2-5-5 has been ordered for kids over 4. I would like our son to start 2-2-5-5 when he is six. Is it too much to return to court for the access schedule change ? we will continue to have same time share 50/50.
If we were to return to court I may as well raise the other issues. Summer - Ex is refusing to sign up the child to summer camps unless they are in his neighborhood. He does not care - the kid stays with his parents who are retired. I was able to care for him during my time last year since I was off work but I need to go back to work full time. Summer camps are fun and educational ! Our current order does not talk about summer care except for vacation since the child was in daycare when we signed it.
Finally if I am to return to court I want to ask for the final decision making authority . I know it's a long shot but I am willing to work with a PC - he is not. If there is no signed PC contract then we have no way to resolve our differences, but to return to court which is long, tiring and expensive. Did anyone have experience having that caveat put into their order ?
Thank you. Your honest opinion is welcome.
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