Hello there, I was wondering if someone could give me some advice on this topic. I am in the process of getting a separation agreement done (actually my ex's lawyer is preparing one for me to review). When it comes to custody, we are good and have come to an agreement. However when it comes to Support we are miles apart.
My Ex has taken a very low paying job (with commission potential) but she has just started so it is going to take her a while to get up and running. She has not worked in a few years due to financial circumstances and child care as well but when she was working she was making over $40K per year. She informed me that she would be using her low base salary for the calculations, I have done the math on it and the payments would essentially put both of us in a situation where neither one of us would be able to afford to maintain a household.
As it is now I have been maintaining the household (rent, bills, etc) for both of us (still living in the same home) since she ended the relationship. She is now planning to move out to a more expensive house and her monthly salary won't even cover her rent and portion of the daycare bills. Yet she is hell bent on moving. In addition to this she actually asked me if I would help her find another job (after being on the job for a few weeks). To me it seems like she is not prepared for the future and expects me to cover her and unfortunately I simply can't afford to maintain two households.
What can I do here? If they use her base salary, I will not be able to sustain the home that I am renting now and the rent is very low in comparison to what is out there. Potentially if they use her salary it would be devastating, to the point where I jokingly say we would both be living in cardboard boxes. To me that is not in any way shape or form in the best interests of the kids and would put them at risk. I made a suggestion that she move in with family if she really can't be around me until she has the ability to maintain a household with some support from me but she refused.
I understand that I do have to pay child support and my children are my priority (I spend more time at home with them than she does at this point). But to me it seems like she is lowering her salary and increasing her costs and by doing so putting the children at risk as well as me. She will not listen to any suggestions I make and once I review the separation agreement and get my lawyer involved this is going to put even more financial stress on the situation as I feel that even if the facts are presented to her by her lawyer she will not agree.
What can I do??
Thanks
My Ex has taken a very low paying job (with commission potential) but she has just started so it is going to take her a while to get up and running. She has not worked in a few years due to financial circumstances and child care as well but when she was working she was making over $40K per year. She informed me that she would be using her low base salary for the calculations, I have done the math on it and the payments would essentially put both of us in a situation where neither one of us would be able to afford to maintain a household.
As it is now I have been maintaining the household (rent, bills, etc) for both of us (still living in the same home) since she ended the relationship. She is now planning to move out to a more expensive house and her monthly salary won't even cover her rent and portion of the daycare bills. Yet she is hell bent on moving. In addition to this she actually asked me if I would help her find another job (after being on the job for a few weeks). To me it seems like she is not prepared for the future and expects me to cover her and unfortunately I simply can't afford to maintain two households.
What can I do here? If they use her base salary, I will not be able to sustain the home that I am renting now and the rent is very low in comparison to what is out there. Potentially if they use her salary it would be devastating, to the point where I jokingly say we would both be living in cardboard boxes. To me that is not in any way shape or form in the best interests of the kids and would put them at risk. I made a suggestion that she move in with family if she really can't be around me until she has the ability to maintain a household with some support from me but she refused.
I understand that I do have to pay child support and my children are my priority (I spend more time at home with them than she does at this point). But to me it seems like she is lowering her salary and increasing her costs and by doing so putting the children at risk as well as me. She will not listen to any suggestions I make and once I review the separation agreement and get my lawyer involved this is going to put even more financial stress on the situation as I feel that even if the facts are presented to her by her lawyer she will not agree.
What can I do??
Thanks
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