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Old 03-18-2020, 04:49 PM
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In follow up to my earlier message, my ex refused to release our boys to my care.He has worked them into a frenzy regarding the virus. I rang the doorbell and waited on the driveway. Ex came out saying the boys were refusing to come. One of them screamed "I am not coming! I am too scared!" About 20 minutes of back and forth and I have come home without my children. I stopped at the police station knowing they could not do anything but I have spoken with a police officer and at least he knows about the situation.

I am now in the process of dealing with this through lawyers. I have spoken with mine and she is attempting to reach his lawyer.

My sons called me shortly after I arrived home. What they said broke my heart. They both apologized for creating this situation. Wtf???? I have reassured them that I am not upset or angry with them, their dad and I will figure this out, and that I would see him soon.

Funny thing is there were many families on his street enjoying the outside riding bikes, walking dogs, etc. There's absolutely no reason for this to be happening.

So ya, tread carefully when it comes to exchanges. Do not create an issue where one really doesn't exist.

A parent who would try to get the police involved when her children directly refused to see her shouldnt even be allowed to see them. what a horrible horrible thing to do. do you have any idea how stressful that is for children to have police involvement?
I commend their father for raising them right to realize that they should call an apologize, they have more character than you do.
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Old 03-18-2020, 04:50 PM
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In follow up to my earlier message, my ex refused to release our boys to my care.He has worked them into a frenzy regarding the virus. I rang the doorbell and waited on the driveway. Ex came out saying the boys were refusing to come. One of them screamed "I am not coming! I am too scared!" About 20 minutes of back and forth and I have come home without my children. I stopped at the police station knowing they could not do anything but I have spoken with a police officer and at least he knows about the situation.

I am now in the process of dealing with this through lawyers. I have spoken with mine and she is attempting to reach his lawyer.

My sons called me shortly after I arrived home. What they said broke my heart. They both apologized for creating this situation. Wtf???? I have reassured them that I am not upset or angry with them, their dad and I will figure this out, and that I would see him soon.

Funny thing is there were many families on his street enjoying the outside riding bikes, walking dogs, etc. There's absolutely no reason for this to be happening.

So ya, tread carefully when it comes to exchanges. Do not create an issue where one really doesn't exist.

A parent who would try to get the police involved when her children directly refused to see her shouldnt even be allowed to see them. what a horrible horrible thing to do. do you have any idea how stressful that is for children to have police involvement?
I commend their father for raising them right to realize that they should call and apologize, they have more character than you do.
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Old 03-18-2020, 04:57 PM
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A parent who would try to get the police involved when her children directly refused to see her shouldnt even be allowed to see them. what a horrible horrible thing to do. do you have any idea how stressful that is for children to have police involvement?
I commend their father for raising them right to realize that they should call and apologize, they have more character than you do.
The degree of judgement on this forum when complete information is not available is often disgusting.
The old adage about walking a mile in someone's shoes is apt.
Shameful.
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Old 03-18-2020, 04:59 PM
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The degree of judgement on this forum when complete information is not available is often disgusting.
The old adage about walking a mile in someone's shoes is apt.
Shameful.
read your own posts first.
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Old 03-18-2020, 05:02 PM
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read your own posts first.
Please. Enough is enough.
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Old 03-18-2020, 05:25 PM
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Sahibgee -- your opinion of me does not matter. I went to the police station as many many many posters have suggested for various different reasons. I went to inform myself of which avenues were open to me. I knew they could not go to his house to remove them.

The issue here is not my going to the police station. The issue here is their father refusing to release them to my care for my patenting time during the March Break. He had now suggested we have a meeting in his home tomorrow with the boys present, as well as a police officer. So, please, tell me who is the "bad" parent here? Were the situation flipped, he would be going ballistic causing all sorts of bs. I on the other hand have informed myself as to what can and cannot happen. My lawyer is aware and we will be taking the appropriate steps to hopefully have my boys returned to my care as fast as possible.

So ya, piss off.
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Old 03-18-2020, 05:31 PM
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Thank you for your input, I'll take that into consideration;
There are three key factors why I thought of doing this.

1- the sick may not know for for days that they are sick and could be transmitting to others - that's one of the key reasons of the virus's fast and far reach. In Canada the reported cases doubled yesterday, The same trajectory as Italy!

2- my elderly parents with many health problems live with me and the virus coming to them could have dire consequences.

3- since our son started going to school we have always done exchanges at school/daycare and prior to that at access centres - those were on my instance because the other party has so far 6 false phone calls to the police, the first two times the police arrested me and I had to spend about 30k fighting false charges that were dropped before prelim - the lack of consequences only encouraged her to continue.
Since the courts are closed access centres aren't currently an option, send I am in no mood of having another round of police involvement.

I am certainly still considering your input but those are my reasons as of now
using your reasoning, your child could have it already but you are willing to expose your elderly parents. It could kill your parents. You are willing to put someone who is vulnerable at risk. If there is a risk your offer to the mom should be for her to have the child until this passes in order to protect your parents. If there is no risk then parenting times should stay remain as they are.
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Old 03-18-2020, 05:34 PM
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In follow up to my earlier message, my ex refused to release our boys to my care.He has worked them into a frenzy regarding the virus. I rang the doorbell and waited on the driveway. Ex came out saying the boys were refusing to come. One of them screamed "I am not coming! I am too scared!" About 20 minutes of back and forth and I have come home without my children. I stopped at the police station knowing they could not do anything but I have spoken with a police officer and at least he knows about the situation.

I am now in the process of dealing with this through lawyers. I have spoken with mine and she is attempting to reach his lawyer.

My sons called me shortly after I arrived home. What they said broke my heart. They both apologized for creating this situation. Wtf???? I have reassured them that I am not upset or angry with them, their dad and I will figure this out, and that I would see him soon.

Funny thing is there were many families on his street enjoying the outside riding bikes, walking dogs, etc. There's absolutely no reason for this to be happening.

So ya, tread carefully when it comes to exchanges. Do not create an issue where one really doesn't exist.
yikes. from what I remember from your other posts- this doesn't surprise me. Dad is a nutjob.

Do you guys parallel parent?
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Old 03-18-2020, 05:34 PM
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conbarry yeah you dont care about my opinion and then go on explaining your despicable act, lol

You have a lawyer, that was your avenue to know your options not the police, you could have had a very poor excuse if you did not have a lawyer, but the fact that you have a lawyer and still went to the police exposes your ill intentions. shame.
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Old 03-18-2020, 05:39 PM
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A parent who would try to get the police involved when her children directly refused to see her shouldnt even be allowed to see them. what a horrible horrible thing to do. do you have any idea how stressful that is for children to have police involvement?
I commend their father for raising them right to realize that they should call an apologize, they have more character than you do.
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conbarry yeah you dont care about my opinion and then go on explaining your despicable act, lol

You have a lawyer, that was your avenue to know your options not the police, you could have had a very poor excuse if you did not have a lawyer, but the fact that you have a lawyer and still went to the police exposes your ill intentions. shame.
Nearly everything you post on here reeks of control and abuse.
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