Ottawa Divorce .com Forums


User CP

New posts

Advertising

  Ottawa Divorce .com Forums > Main Category > Divorce & Family Law

Divorce & Family Law This forum is for discussing any of the legal issues involved in your divorce.

Reply
 
Thread Tools
  #1  
Old 03-26-2020, 09:11 AM
Abba435 Abba435 is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2020
Posts: 235
Abba435 is on a distinguished road
Default File preparation for court - Lessons learned

After going through the gruelling experience of locating, organizing, copying, and finally filing documents for trial (undertakings, questions for examination adn cross, admissions, responses to admissions, exhibits, case law) I noted a few lessons learned.

Start early. As in now. It can be a huge amount of work. If you let your law firm do it all you will pay dearly. And you will miss, forget or lose important and possibly critical documents.

Materials you need are:

- 3 inch binders. I had a dozen in the end. You can find these used on kijiji.

- Index tabs. Lots. Numerical and Alphabetic. Staples is expensive. Go to https://www.tabit.ca/ and you can buy index tabs way cheaper. It make you look professional and organized and reasonable in court if needed. Plus keeps you organized. you must be organized.

- Excel spreadsheets to keep track of all those documents and to build the index pages that you must submit in your court filings
Form 22 you need a list of facts and a list of documents.
Exhibits have to be easily referred to in court, you need to provide a copy for the court and the opposing party.
This is essential for the judge to easily reference what of your proposed exhibits are being entered as evidence.
Very vey useful if you have to prepare a costs submission.
This shows you are capable and may just prove your arguments out o court so the other side has to declare no contest and get reasonable.
You will waste many many hours and get frustrated if you are not organized starting now.

- A good printer/copier. you can find really good Brother lasers (not inkjets) on Kijiji or Facebook Marketplace.

- Keep track of all of your costs. Keep track of your time if you self represent. Keep track of all of your lawyer's time, when you called, when you sent an email.

- Do not overwhelm your lawyer with trivia, anger, nonsense. you pay for it all in 6 minute increments that add up fast

- Communicate all important matters in writing by email or letter.

- BIFFF - Brief, Informative, Fair, Firm, Factual. Pretend every word you say and write can end up in evidence, because it can and will!

- Admit your mistakes and make reasonable offer to make them right

- Above all, every single word has to focus on the best interests of the kids. Every word. Even though I firmly believe that the welfare of parents is part of that the focus of communication has to be on what is best for children.

- DO not assume that case conferences will accomplish much.

- Make very clear written offers and serve them.

- Read the Family Law Rules carefully. Very carefully. Know that the Rules of Civil Procedure may take precedence where the FL Rules are not specific such as in withdrawing a motion (expensive stupid mistake here)

- Research this forum carefully. Loads of smart people here. Filter out the aggressive comments. This place is anonymous so just like social media sometimes words are posted that people would never say in person. Take what you can, it is free and often excellent advice and references.

- Rise above, take the high road, pick your battles carefully, be as nice as you can.

- Be respectful, be prepared. This is not a sprint, it is a marathon. Learn as you go.

- Take care of yourself. Don't let anyone bully you. Listen to your gut, and your heart. Hug those kids.

- PM me anytime. Pay it forward.
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 03-26-2020, 09:44 AM
paco's Avatar
paco paco is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Toronto, ON
Posts: 357
paco has a little shameless behaviour in the past
Default

Excellent post, thank you.
Can you provide some input as to how to defend your ex's Appeal considering that you were successful at Trial?

Sent from my SM-G960W using Tapatalk
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 03-26-2020, 09:54 AM
LovingDad1234 LovingDad1234 is online now
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2019
Posts: 186
LovingDad1234 is on a distinguished road
Default

Excellent post Abba!

If I can add a bit of advice from my journey:

- Seek counseling if you are going through a high conflict separation/divorce. You will need to vent. You don't want to bog down your friends and family with your situation, and certainly not your lawyer. Your lawyer WILL listen, but look out when you get the bill, because you will be charged for that 30 minute rant. Cheaper to speak to a counsellor.

- Be wary and aware of the situation with your ex. Recognize if it is high conflict and unreasonable. And whether or not settlement is possible. Otherwise you can enter an endless cycle of settlement conferences that erode your finances and unnecessarily limit your time with your kids (if you are seeking increase or 50/50)
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 03-26-2020, 11:37 AM
Abba435 Abba435 is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2020
Posts: 235
Abba435 is on a distinguished road
Default

I do not know if I was successful in responding. The ruling is pending. Fingers crossed. I do figure my work would have cost me at least $50k and I will be claiming at least half that in my cost submission if not more.

Last edited by Abba435; 03-26-2020 at 11:46 AM.
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 03-26-2020, 11:41 AM
Abba435 Abba435 is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2020
Posts: 235
Abba435 is on a distinguished road
Default

If you have benefits for counselling use them. Find a therapist expert in marriage breakdown. Some Parenting Coordinators are social workers so their fees qualify. Collaborative Law is questionable.
Reply With Quote
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Ex is Military stillstrong Financial Issues 22 06-03-2011 06:31 PM
Getting your file from lawyer Rao Agnihotri Divorce & Family Law 3 04-13-2010 12:21 AM
Some food for thought... dickstacie Divorce Support 1 05-06-2007 01:25 PM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 10:41 AM.