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  • Ex broke into my email

    So the drama never ends. My lawyer and I have done most of our correspondence by email as it was fast, cheap and I live about an hour away so it was convenient. (94 emails from him)

    The othe day I was going through my email when I noticed that there was stuff in my sent box to her.

    It was fwd to her address and it was stuff that I think she was hoping to use in court to help her case.

    I checked the ip address against an old email that she had sent me and sure enough same ip address.

    This crazy woman guesses my password (has probably been trying for years), read all my legal correspondence, and stole my email!

    I've contacted the police and they don't know if they can do anything but talk to her about ethics! I'm pretty sure if I had done it, I'd be arrested.

    Anyway, my lawyer is aware of the whole situation, but doesn't seem to concerned about it.

    Opinions?

  • #2
    Yeah that sucks, but you are the one being dramatic.

    Charging her? Sure buddy.

    This isn't Spy vs Spy. National security is not at risk.

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    • #3
      Really? So if your ex read all your legal correspondence and stole it too, you wouldn't react? I didn't realize that laws only applied when national security was at risk. Your right, next time someone breaks into your home and steals something, I'm betting you won't call the cops, because it didn't put our national security at risk. I and the rest of the country thank you for not wasting tax payors dollars.

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      • #4
        You need to be able to prove it, you can't just hurl accusations. Breaking a computer password is a criminal offence, but the police won't put any effort into investigating it, any more than they will will ticket you for not signaling a right hand turn 99% of the time unless they are in a bad mood.

        You can file charges yourself with a justice of the peace but you need to have proof, and you need to be able show a case to the crown otherwise it will just be dismissed. She will claim that you sent her the emails out of a spiteful attempt to claim she broke into your email account.

        dtte's comment about national security may seem harsh but it's true. The police would have to get a warrent and seize her harddrive and subpoena records from her isp. They might do this for a major drug dealer, they would do it for child porn, they would do it for terroism but they won't do it for a divorce case.

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        • #5
          I have proof. And again, we laws for a reason, and they apply to everyone. Sorry if you think it's a waste of time. But I stand by what I say. Someone breaking into your email and reading and STEALING your email and trying to use it against you is a crime. No different from someone breaking into your home and stealing something
          If she had just read it, I probably would not have pursued it, because I would have no proof. But she blatantly stole it. And left proof.

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          • #6
            In which case you don't have to come here and ask permission. Go to a justice of the peace and swear out a complaint. If you want advice go to a criminal lawyer; a family law/divorce lawyer has no expertise in this matter.

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            • #7
              I wasn't asking your permission, I was asking for opinions of others who may have gone through this. I didn't realize this forum was now only allowing questions approved by certain senior members. Good luck.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by havebe View Post
                I wasn't asking your permission, I was asking for opinions of others who may have gone through this. I didn't realize this forum was now only allowing questions approved by certain senior members. Good luck.
                We gave you our opinions; you rejected them. This is a divorce forum, you have a criminal code question.

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                • #9
                  It's illegal to cross against a red light too. Go pick up your cross and carry it down to the closest stoplight and starting make citizen's arrests.

                  You don't seem to understand that the police have better things to do than immerse themselves in your he said/she said.

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                  • #10
                    I had a gf figure out my e amail password, read erything delete it all post unflattering things on other sites with that passwod, I went to the police. Had somewhat compelling evidence, nah...nothing sadly and understandably there is not much they can do about it, in my case they called her she denied it to them but admitted it to me later and gave me back the new passord she created with an empty account. not really much can be done form my personal experience. Move on.....the police have "serious" things to worry about rather than domestic issues, understandably so.

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                    • #11
                      Yeah not much that can be done on a legal front man. It sucks, but it is what it is. This ain't the US and we don't have federal wiretapping laws that get twisted for this kind of issue.

                      You've advised your lawyer of it, so he's aware that anything in those items might come up. I hope you changed your password and or security questions.

                      A lot of the time you can set it up so it sends a text to your mobile if the password is requested to be changed and that's the ONLY password reset option available on the account.

                      Make a unique password, use special characters and make it something you wouldn't normally use. ie. use P@s$W0rD or something.

                      Write it on a sticky note and carry it in your wallet if you must.

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                      • #12
                        The trouble is a lot of the mandatory security questions for password reset are things a long term spouse would know, like "What is your mother's middle name?" Make sure to go back to the security questions and put in bullshit answers, or spell everything backwards or something.

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                        • #13
                          just as a "slightly" off topic reply into this -- your ex can also steal your letter mail. mine did this to me a year ago:

                          she had my postal mail forwarded to her own address. after my own investigation, it turns out you can do this to really anyone. you just need where they live and their last name and where you want their mail to go. submit the change of address with canada post, pay the fee and it's done.

                          she opened my mail and tried to use what she saw to get more $$ from me. it hasn't worked yet as she apparently is smart enough to know that if she says she stole my mail a(and opened it) she'll be in for mail fraud. problem is I can't follow through as I had to actually "look" through her stuff while at her place to find it (i was looking for a diaper - yes, her house is that messy -where diapers get intermixed with mail).

                          my advice for this: get a p.o. box where she won't know (or be able to find) the p.o. box #. use it for your important stuff.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by alx View Post
                            my advice for this: get a p.o. box where she won't know (or be able to find) the p.o. box #. use it for your important stuff.
                            Or you could just submit the form to have your mail forwarded back to the original address.... save yourslef the cost of renting a PO box.

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