Is there a proper way one should write up an agreement on how things should be handled/dealt with, when living in the same home?
My ex has come back after 5 months!!!!!….he’s sleeping in the house every night… in the bed I was sleeping in and now am forced out of unless I want him beside me (NOT)… so now I’m avoiding going home as much as possible (yes, I know, giving in to him with what he wants - but seriously, he’s not sane, he is indeed a sociopath, so it’s best for my mental and emotional well being to try and avoid him).
Anyway, he has invited casual sex partners (one of which is recently out of jail, another is trying to get a dominatrix prostitution business underway) to my home, on evenings and mornings he thinks I will not be there (and most evening I am not there…mornings he phones my work to see if I am at work which is an hour away, and hangs up on me so he’ll know if I will be at the house or not).
This is killing me … I know I am not suppose to get emotional and the best thing to do is let it go but I can’t. These women are in my home, MY place to feel safe, where my personal things are, and they are not the calibre of person I trust to even have a bottle of perfume on the counter for fear of it going missing.
I’d like to write and leave a letter expressing that since he has moved back in, certain terms and conditions have to be shared by the both of us. Such as a common courtesy in late night noise, trying to avoid waking the other person. A common respect for it being the others home as well and the avoidance of bringing ‘dates’ into the house, etc…
Can anyone PLEASE give me some advice on how this should be written, how it should be worded, if it can be used legally if he doesn’t agree to it, and ANY other thoughts or information you can think of….
I really need help with this issue as it is pushing over the edge he already has me balancing on.
Thanks so much for any time give to share thoughts and ideas in regards to my wacked out situation.
My ex has come back after 5 months!!!!!….he’s sleeping in the house every night… in the bed I was sleeping in and now am forced out of unless I want him beside me (NOT)… so now I’m avoiding going home as much as possible (yes, I know, giving in to him with what he wants - but seriously, he’s not sane, he is indeed a sociopath, so it’s best for my mental and emotional well being to try and avoid him).
Anyway, he has invited casual sex partners (one of which is recently out of jail, another is trying to get a dominatrix prostitution business underway) to my home, on evenings and mornings he thinks I will not be there (and most evening I am not there…mornings he phones my work to see if I am at work which is an hour away, and hangs up on me so he’ll know if I will be at the house or not).
This is killing me … I know I am not suppose to get emotional and the best thing to do is let it go but I can’t. These women are in my home, MY place to feel safe, where my personal things are, and they are not the calibre of person I trust to even have a bottle of perfume on the counter for fear of it going missing.
I’d like to write and leave a letter expressing that since he has moved back in, certain terms and conditions have to be shared by the both of us. Such as a common courtesy in late night noise, trying to avoid waking the other person. A common respect for it being the others home as well and the avoidance of bringing ‘dates’ into the house, etc…
Can anyone PLEASE give me some advice on how this should be written, how it should be worded, if it can be used legally if he doesn’t agree to it, and ANY other thoughts or information you can think of….
I really need help with this issue as it is pushing over the edge he already has me balancing on.
Thanks so much for any time give to share thoughts and ideas in regards to my wacked out situation.
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