Since I came back to this site recently I have had some very good advice but one piece sticks out - and that is to not get baited into a war of words with the ex. Something I had let happen for too long.
Whilst I've always tried to take the high road and keep emails as businesslike and on-point as possible I went a litte far the other day. She has had alcohol issues in the past (DUI, assault etc) and I'm convinced she's an alcoholic. After a heated exchange via email I lost it and typed an email back in which I wrote amongst other things, "You look over fifty years old with the lifestyle you lead!", (she is forty). No offence meant to our fifty plus members - there is nothing wrong with looking fifty if you ARE fifty. ... I'm digging a hole here aren't I?
I very rarely lash out like that but she said a very horrid and untrue thing that made my blood boil. Anyway she came back with "I look over 50 years old, thank you for that by the way, and I will copy and use this in court for my reasons you are not a good example of a primary parent, you are absolutely unbending and unaccommodating in any way whatsoever. Again thanks for building my case for me."
Hopefully this comment won't make me a bad parent in the eyes of the courts but how damaging is this really? Should I be worried?
Obviously from here on in I will remain calm and not allow myself to get baited into pointless saber rattling.
Whilst I've always tried to take the high road and keep emails as businesslike and on-point as possible I went a litte far the other day. She has had alcohol issues in the past (DUI, assault etc) and I'm convinced she's an alcoholic. After a heated exchange via email I lost it and typed an email back in which I wrote amongst other things, "You look over fifty years old with the lifestyle you lead!", (she is forty). No offence meant to our fifty plus members - there is nothing wrong with looking fifty if you ARE fifty. ... I'm digging a hole here aren't I?
I very rarely lash out like that but she said a very horrid and untrue thing that made my blood boil. Anyway she came back with "I look over 50 years old, thank you for that by the way, and I will copy and use this in court for my reasons you are not a good example of a primary parent, you are absolutely unbending and unaccommodating in any way whatsoever. Again thanks for building my case for me."
Hopefully this comment won't make me a bad parent in the eyes of the courts but how damaging is this really? Should I be worried?
Obviously from here on in I will remain calm and not allow myself to get baited into pointless saber rattling.
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