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Old 05-05-2014, 04:16 PM
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Ex is being very demanding about having me release my SIN, banking and even credit card info to her - she is saying FRO needs it.

I released banking & SIN details months ago to the court, and even followed up to my FRO contact to ensure they had all my correct info on file.

Ex is threatening to "take this back to court" unless I give her the info she wants, (fro hasn't starting giving her the cheques apparently) and is also expecting me to write a check from when court was settled to now since FRO hasn't given her money yet. I hardly want more lawyer fees, but want identity theft even less, so I'm guessing I should just keep refusing.

She has a history of stealing from me (she once re-routed my mail to her place so she could review my banking/credit card & pay stub details -- I should have had her charged with mail fraud, but was the naive nice guy).

Any quick thoughts? Am I supposed to give her my SIN info? I saw some prior postings where some of you have blanked out that kind of info when doing the notice of assessment sharing, etc., but didn't see any follow ups as to if it was forced on anyone. Would FRO not contact me direct if they needed that info?

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Old 05-05-2014, 04:18 PM
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If FRO needs it get them to contact you.

do NOT give her or FRO your Credit Card Info.
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Old 05-05-2014, 04:20 PM
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Why not just contact FRO directly and ask them if they need any further info from you? Doesn't hurt to be proactive I would think.
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Old 05-05-2014, 04:21 PM
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FRO as far as I can tell does not need this info. I have the initial letter from FRO in front of me, and it makes no mention of that.

And as FB wisely states, let FRO ask if they need it. They aren't shy.
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Old 05-05-2014, 04:36 PM
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I've already tried to be proactive and sent FRO an old-fashioned fax message asking if they need the info... no response as of yet. I'll stand my ground and let her fury build. But she's texting daily and calling leaving angry voice mails every couple of days demanding the info - even going so far to say that I've lied to the court & fro about where I work and that she's telling the kids about how much of a liar & "deadbeat dad" I am. I really love how that term can so easily get tossed out there by angry bitter ex's!

Is there an average wait time that people go through before getting payments from FRO? Not that she'll listen if I tell her, but at least for my own knowledge of when she'll start getting payments.

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Old 05-05-2014, 04:39 PM
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This is a tactic.

She is trying to get your blood boiling so that you aren't focussed on the things you should be focussing on. Ignore it the best you can.
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Old 05-05-2014, 06:02 PM
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Do not pay her direct. FRO will charge you.
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Old 05-05-2014, 06:05 PM
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If a maintenance enforcement agency wants information from you they typically will send you a letter (or if you're in Alberta you get an email).

I wouldn't respond to her, particularly if she has a questionable background, as she could be planning something fraudulent.

Desperate people do desperate things. Always guard your personal information. When you have to submit financials to court you can black out your SIN.

If she did not complete her paperwork properly, or it was incomplete, things can get held up.

There is a new site which might have more information on FRO - it's called "Frostrating"
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Old 05-05-2014, 06:13 PM
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It usually takes a couple of months for FRO to start making payments. If CS or SS has been court ordered, they will get in touch with you if need be. You have no reason at all to give any info to your STBX. It's up to her to contact them if she feels the wait is taking too long.

Also don't get duped into sending her money until FRO catches up to speed - you'll probably never get it back.

Let her learn the fine art of 'patience'.
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Old 05-05-2014, 09:25 PM
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when you had to submit your income tax forms to your ex, your SIN is on it......correct????
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