Another day another drama. A couple of days ago the ex emailed my partner and demanded to meet with him and told him if he didn't she was going to destroy him. She did the email not in English I guess thinking it couldn't be used against her. He refused to meet with her. Yesterday he got an email from the Trial Coordinator saying that they had allowed her to file an amended case conference brief because her deadline had not yet passed and she claimed she had just come in to possession of some new information and materials.
The new brief, in addition to more claims about me includes pictures of MY children that my step-son took on one vacation including a picture where my daughter is drinking what is obviously a root beer but she's claiming it wasn't root beer. She also included a picture of my son in his bathing suit claiming that he's being malnourished and underfed. He has very documented health issues that cause him to be extremely skinny. She added that her son told her that the kids have complained that I am not a good mother. So the first question is - how is this allowed? How can pictures of my children be used when I'm not even a party to the case. I KNOW her intention was to upset me and it has worked which I hate, but what I hate even more is that my children are being used as pawns in this bullshit game.
The second thing that was added was a claim that my partner has alienated their older child from her and she included text messages from their son where he said he hated her and never wanted to see her again. No mention of my partner in the texts and she conveniently forgot to include the texts that led up to this. The two have had a strained relationship for years. When he was 16 that altercation happened between my partner and his ex where she was arrested and the restraining order was put in place. During that incident she had wanted their son to lie to the police and say his dad had pushed her. He refused to lie and she kicked him out - she had the police take him and his belongings out of the house.
He has tried off and on over the years to have a relationship with his mother but it always ends up going badly. While we were on vacation (the now 21 year old step-son didn't come), the two apparently got into an argument and his mother went off - all documented by text or email. She was saying really vile things to him and she messaged his girlfriend on Facebook saying racist, horrible things. That was when he sent the message saying that he hated her and never wanted to see her again and he blocked her phone and email.
Is there a way to refute her alienation claims without dragging their son into it? We were reading that using second hand texts and emails can be problematic but can he provide them and say that his son gave them to him? The absolute last thing he wants is to have to involve him whether by affidavit or whatever but if he just ignores the claim won't that look like an admission? Or is that what he should do?
Thank you.
The new brief, in addition to more claims about me includes pictures of MY children that my step-son took on one vacation including a picture where my daughter is drinking what is obviously a root beer but she's claiming it wasn't root beer. She also included a picture of my son in his bathing suit claiming that he's being malnourished and underfed. He has very documented health issues that cause him to be extremely skinny. She added that her son told her that the kids have complained that I am not a good mother. So the first question is - how is this allowed? How can pictures of my children be used when I'm not even a party to the case. I KNOW her intention was to upset me and it has worked which I hate, but what I hate even more is that my children are being used as pawns in this bullshit game.
The second thing that was added was a claim that my partner has alienated their older child from her and she included text messages from their son where he said he hated her and never wanted to see her again. No mention of my partner in the texts and she conveniently forgot to include the texts that led up to this. The two have had a strained relationship for years. When he was 16 that altercation happened between my partner and his ex where she was arrested and the restraining order was put in place. During that incident she had wanted their son to lie to the police and say his dad had pushed her. He refused to lie and she kicked him out - she had the police take him and his belongings out of the house.
He has tried off and on over the years to have a relationship with his mother but it always ends up going badly. While we were on vacation (the now 21 year old step-son didn't come), the two apparently got into an argument and his mother went off - all documented by text or email. She was saying really vile things to him and she messaged his girlfriend on Facebook saying racist, horrible things. That was when he sent the message saying that he hated her and never wanted to see her again and he blocked her phone and email.
Is there a way to refute her alienation claims without dragging their son into it? We were reading that using second hand texts and emails can be problematic but can he provide them and say that his son gave them to him? The absolute last thing he wants is to have to involve him whether by affidavit or whatever but if he just ignores the claim won't that look like an admission? Or is that what he should do?
Thank you.
Comment