You need to get real about your situation. You never should have quit your job and at this point I would recommend you go out and get a new one and fast. You need to take control of your finances immediately. If you had never had a spouse it would be all on you.
Next you need to let go of this notion that you can modify a custody situation to get more money. Your kids should love both their parents equally and if you are worried about having enough money to buy their love then you need to adjust your parenting immediately.
You also need to do the math like I outlined and determine worst case scenario and best case scenario then offer a middle option to your ex to settle it. If you have to rent for a couple of years so be it, you made this choice, this is the consequence. Your ex didnt force you to quit your job or open your own business. You got into that mess yourself and you dug the hole you are in yourself. Time to put on your big girl pants and own it.
From there you need to look at entitlement and whether spousal is something you would receive. Everything is a math game at this point and a good lawyer will help you work through that. It sounds like you had a good lawyer you just didnt like what they had to say. If you want to try someone else, google lawyer ratings and find one that way. Either way, until you lower your expectations you will never resolve this.
You also need to stop viewing this as your ex trying to destroy you. You set the stage to destroy yourself. You can fix it.
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Next you need to let go of this notion that you can modify a custody situation to get more money. Your kids should love both their parents equally and if you are worried about having enough money to buy their love then you need to adjust your parenting immediately.
You also need to do the math like I outlined and determine worst case scenario and best case scenario then offer a middle option to your ex to settle it. If you have to rent for a couple of years so be it, you made this choice, this is the consequence. Your ex didnt force you to quit your job or open your own business. You got into that mess yourself and you dug the hole you are in yourself. Time to put on your big girl pants and own it.
From there you need to look at entitlement and whether spousal is something you would receive. Everything is a math game at this point and a good lawyer will help you work through that. It sounds like you had a good lawyer you just didnt like what they had to say. If you want to try someone else, google lawyer ratings and find one that way. Either way, until you lower your expectations you will never resolve this.
You also need to stop viewing this as your ex trying to destroy you. You set the stage to destroy yourself. You can fix it.
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