Mcdreamy, I was only indicating that we misunderstood each other on the singular point about notification versus opportunity. No point in dwelling on it, though, you are correct, we don't agree on the rest of the stuff.
I'm just not comfortable with the notion that the dad has somehow been negligent because he didn't attend every doctor's appointment along with the mother. It is rare that both parents attend these things, and even rarer, I suspect in a case like this. The poster has indicated that both the doctor and the mother have behaved dissmissively towards the father in the past. I get that we are only hearing one side of it, but if we only commented on stories that had both sides present, this forum would be pretty dead.
I don't think that we have enough information to speculate on whether or not the child in question is getting enough exercise or playing too many video games. We don't know the family situation. You're right, it is important to know if the father has 50-50 access. In fact, if he doesn't, and there is a lifestyle related issue, then it makes it all the more imperative for the mother to engage in a more mature fashion.
More folks on this thread are saying that while he has a right to take his child to a different doctor, he shouldn't, because it will cause conflict. Okay, I'll buy that - I even indicated in an earlier post on this thread that exercising that right might not be the wisest course.
So, let me pose this to you: Let's assume that the child in question is with the mother the majority of the time, and she is unwilling to discuss the issue with the father and consider either A) A lifestyle change for the child or B) More tests. If she really is most responsible for the child's diet and activity, but isn't interested in budging, and it is just a diet and lifestyle issue as has been suggested, what are they to do?
I'll admit that I am selfishly asking for personal reference. I have a decent enough working relationship with my ex (hell, her boyfriend took the kids to the dentist today, and I managed to not feel territorial about it), but what if we did reach a disagreement on treatment or lifestyle choices for the kids? What are some of the ways to get the other parent to even discuss?
I'm just not comfortable with the notion that the dad has somehow been negligent because he didn't attend every doctor's appointment along with the mother. It is rare that both parents attend these things, and even rarer, I suspect in a case like this. The poster has indicated that both the doctor and the mother have behaved dissmissively towards the father in the past. I get that we are only hearing one side of it, but if we only commented on stories that had both sides present, this forum would be pretty dead.
I don't think that we have enough information to speculate on whether or not the child in question is getting enough exercise or playing too many video games. We don't know the family situation. You're right, it is important to know if the father has 50-50 access. In fact, if he doesn't, and there is a lifestyle related issue, then it makes it all the more imperative for the mother to engage in a more mature fashion.
More folks on this thread are saying that while he has a right to take his child to a different doctor, he shouldn't, because it will cause conflict. Okay, I'll buy that - I even indicated in an earlier post on this thread that exercising that right might not be the wisest course.
So, let me pose this to you: Let's assume that the child in question is with the mother the majority of the time, and she is unwilling to discuss the issue with the father and consider either A) A lifestyle change for the child or B) More tests. If she really is most responsible for the child's diet and activity, but isn't interested in budging, and it is just a diet and lifestyle issue as has been suggested, what are they to do?
I'll admit that I am selfishly asking for personal reference. I have a decent enough working relationship with my ex (hell, her boyfriend took the kids to the dentist today, and I managed to not feel territorial about it), but what if we did reach a disagreement on treatment or lifestyle choices for the kids? What are some of the ways to get the other parent to even discuss?
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